Weekly Tools and Tips to Improve Any Relationship
If you have more than one child, you have come to the realization that regardless of the fact that they were raised in the same environment, siblings can be very different. Following are some tips on what you can expect now that the new school year is upon us. Red Students Whether in kindergarten or grad school, a Red is only there because they need the experience to further their success. Otherwise, why bother? They already know everything. In fact, Red children are often the ones that leave school too soon because they’re bored. The biggest problem that teachers (especially Blue teachers) have with Red students is that Red children donâ€
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Create Performance in Your Relationships!
Imagine going to bed at night with one person and waking up next to a seemingly different person in the morning. What would it be like never knowing what to expect from the person next to you? Never knowing what kind of mood they’ll be in that day? Even to the most adventurous among us, it would prove tiresome very quickly. We rely on consistency in others in order to know where we stand and what to expect in a relationship. You cannot easily commit to something or someone you cannot understand. The tremendous power of the Color Code is its offering o Read More
I am a very focused driver. I pay attention to the cars around me and try to anticipate what their next move will be, often with open dialog (albeit one-sided) such as, “If you aren’t going to change lanes, turn off your d***ed blinker.” I am courteous to other drivers, always giving them the "thanks" wave when they let me in, or by letting them in when necessary. I have a Yellow friend who, when driving, tends to feel that the entire road belongs to her and sees nothing wrong with straddling lanes and fluctuating her speed in tandem with the intensity of her constant chatter. Interestingly enough, this doesn’t really frighten me. In
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If you are like most, your pie chart looks similar this one, which means you have a primary color (one driving core motive) but you also have a secondary color (another motive that influences they way you think and/or behave). Just as no two snowflakes are alike, no two Reds, Blues, Whites, or Yellows are alike either. We all have our differences, our nuances, our quirks. Just because the Color Code assessment indicates a person is a Core White personality, doesn’t mean that person necessarily possesses all of the White strengths or limitations. In most cases, an individual will naturally possess both strengths and limitations from one or m
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How Color Code Changed My Life Becky: In this journey we call life, we believe what we have been taught and conditioned to believe. We give little conscious thought to our behaviors and actions; we respond subconsciously and often speak before we think. It usually takes some major event happening in our lives (such as the death of a loved one, divorce, job loss, or life-threatening illness) to stop us in our tracks and make us reflect on who we are and exactly what it is that makes us tick. Prior to me knowing the Color Code, I spent 20 years in a sales and marketing role in the corporate world. I consider
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My oldest son is getting married in June. He is forty years old and this is his first marriage. No, he isn’t ugly, stupid, or unmarriageable in any obvious way. He is a White. He has been in long-term relationships before, but nothing ever happened. He seemed content, and as is with many Whites, that was enough. Not so for the other halves of those relationships. Finally, he found his Blue fiancé—or to be more precise, she found him. They have been together for 3 years and it looked to me as if the relationship would be the same as the others, until one night he called to let me know that he had proposed. Stunned, I didn’t ask why, bu
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March Madness started a couple of days ago and College Basketball fans all around the country are rejoicing. But for many parents of Junior High and High School students, “March Madness” has a different connotation. It means that report cards and College acceptance/rejection letters are here.
Anxieties are high for both parents and teens. Some parents are really mad because their teenager’s grades are not up to “standard” and they will spend the majority of the evening yelling about studying or homework. Some teenagers are mad because they know they will be in hot water Read More
While no one likes to deliver bad news, it’s something that most of us have had to do at some stage in life. Whether it’s announcing company redundancies, or telling a partner we’re moving on, it can sometimes take all we have to get the words out and our message across at the right moment. And then once it’s done, we’re often left wondering if perhaps we could have handled it a little better… There are a number of reasons why someone would want to avoid delivering bad news. Whites, for instance, might not feel confident about handling any potential conflict their news is likely to generate, while Yellows might not want to risk b
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Families are an interesting dynamic. In my family of four, we represent the Color Code completely. I am a Red, my husband is a Blue, my oldest son is a White, and my youngest son is a Yellow. Before learning the Color Code, I was frustrated by the fact that everyone didn't think and act exactly the way I did and naturally, it didn't occur to me that they might be just as frustrated with me. Example: During the remodeling of home we were planning to sale, I asked my Blue husband the simple question, "Can we paint the porch handrail today?" Yes or no, right? This is the answer I received: "I have some sheetrock being delivered today and I nee
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Taking Ownership For Your Relationships
Taylor Hartman, Ph.D.
When was the last time you accepted full responsibility for a problem in your life? When was the last time you heard anyone say, “That’s completely my fault. I am 100% Responsible for what happened and will do whatever is necessary to make it right!” We have created a society of victims with a cultural backdrop that actually promotes ”blame, denial and rationalization” rather than responsibility and ownership. Today, if you smoke three packs of cigarettes a day for forty years and die of lung Read More
