Color Code Tips For Parenting Lately, my Facebook friends and relatives who have small children have been bemoaning the summer ahead. “What am I going to do with my children!!!?” they ask (with multiple exclamation points and frowny faces.) My heart goes out to them. For example: I LOVE my grandkids. LOVE them. Really. LOVE them. I spoil them, they amuse me, and I know I am not responsible for building character— exponentially increasing my enjoyment. But, I must confess that most times I am relieved to see them bundled up safely in their little car seats and headed for home. These poor parents do not have the luxury of

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In honor of Independence Day, we decided to focus on one of the most famous, and colorful signers of the Declaration of Independence—Benjamin Franklin. Franklin was born in 1706 and signed the Declaration of Independence when he was 70 years old. So, what of his life before that great event? Because of his prodigious writing, much is known about this great man. We know that in addition to being a forefather of a great nation, he was also a printer, a scientist, an inventor, a writer, a diplomat, and much more. We also know that he was a satirist, had many, many friends, and was a social butterfly.

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I have a friend who has a great job, owns her own condo, drives her dream vehicle, and has more friends than anyone I’ve ever known. She is intelligent, has a great sense of humor, and would give you the shirt off her back. Jane is a Yellow. The thought of Jane’s social calendar sends chills down my spine. Unlike her, I am content to stay home, do projects around the house, and enjoy my family (until I don’t). I like it when people come to me, stay a while, then leave. There are times I wish they would actually leave sooner than they do, but still—they do eventually leave. My relationship with Jane consists of her doing anything I s

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How would you handle it if your best friend was going through a difficult time in his life and he came to you for help?  How can you provide the best words of encouragement to help him?  Many people will find it hard to believe that the first and best way to help a friend is to practice what I call active listening. You may accomplish this by listening carefully without interrupting your friend, and at the proper pause points, check for understanding by feeding back the pertinent information in the form of a question.  This approach will confirm your understanding of his situation. The other added value perspective you may use to offer w

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The 4 “F’s” – How the 4 Colors Avoid Facing the Truth and Avoid Conflicts - Rosalie D. Gibbons, MFT and Gloria Manchester, CTACC “The Heart in Forgiveness” is a process designed by the writers to support you in releasing childhood hurts or other disappointments, regrets, or failures so that you can move forward in your life. As Oprah Winfrey has said, “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.” When someone offends, betrays, or deceives us, it is natural to feel frustrated, angry, hurt, and resentful. Our attention and focus zeroes in on the source of our injury, and we rapidly begin buil

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Today my son Chris and I had an interesting conversation about love. He is a White and therefore very introspective when it comes to observing human nature. I, on the other hand, am a Red so tend to discount emotions that seem to inflict the lovelorn. Still, even though I am missing the romance chip, I found the conversation interesting. It seems that Chris’s Yellow friend is addicted to falling in love. OK, addicted might be too strong a word, but he is strongly attracted to the high that one gets when the whole falling in love process begins. So, we will throw out the word addiction, but make no mistake…there are powerful chemicals inv

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This article was previously published in the Deseret News. Sarah wants to lose 20 pounds. Bobby wants to make a million dollars. Kerry wants to find a job. No matter the goal, ultimate success (or lack thereof) is dependent on your ability to make resolutions that stick. If your resolutions aren’t sticky, your goals will fall and quickly wither away, like leaves before winter’s first snow. Here are 10 ways to make New Year’s resolutions that are sure to stick: 1. Know thy commitment “Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” ― Albert Einstein In football, the term “Hail Mary pass” denotes a low probab

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I resolve to diet.

I resolve to exercise. I resolve to improve my relationship with a certain Blue. I resolve to (once again) work on my limitations. Does this sound familiar? As you read this, I have (most likely) failed at every one of my resolutions. Yet, every year I, along with millions of people worldwide, insist that this year will be different. One area I think we would all like to improve upon is our relationship with others. I admit that there are areas I can work on. Over ten years ago, I was given a book entitled Life’s Little Treasure Book on Wisdom. It is full of sa

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Over the river and through the woods seems mild compared to getting to Grandma’s house these days. All you want is to get your 2.5 children (http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr051.pdf)  and their families together to enjoy a nice quiet holiday meal without the frenzied rush to get everyone to the next place. Sadly, family breakup is something most of us have experienced. Since the national average for divorce is near 50% for first marriages, your family probably resembles the Brady Bunch, with the yours, mine and ours thing going on—the blended family. These stepfamilies usually have many hurdles to overcome. This time of year can b

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At last...the waiting is over. Our new website is launched and we want to walk you through it step by step. Like everyone who designs a new website we started with the question, “What do our visitors need and how do we provide it?” First, it was time for a new look. We changed the look and feel to a new and vibrant design with updated and pleasing colors. But, as everyone knows, beauty is only skin deep. It’s what’s inside that counts—and that means more information, education and application—and it’s all there. First, when you check out our new home page, you’ll not only see information about each color, but as your eye s

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