Learning to Have a New Kind of Fun in the Pandemic

The pandemic has been hard on everyone, and we have all coped in different ways. The Reds have worked through their list of home projects, even though it was challenging at times to get supplies. The Blues turn off the news to avoid the constant barrage of suffering. (As a Blue, I couldn’t listen to the numbers going up, the quarantine extensions, etc.)  For the White personalities, this was an opportunity to embrace their natural tendencies. My White-personality son was happy taking his college courses online. He never left the house unless absolutely necessary. But for my 15-year-old daughter, a Yellow, things were really tough. 

In 2019, my daughter was a social butterfly.  On weekends, she would leave one friend’s home to go stay at another’s. Sometimes, she would be gone all weekend. She was an A and B student, loving the connections she made with her teachers. She enjoyed the perks of being a good student like extra trips to the vending machines or bathrooms.  She was heavily involved in softball and played travel softball as well as on her school team, which kept us running to practice or tournaments most nights and weekends. 

Her whole world changed in March of 2020.  In the matter of a few weeks, everything that was fun for her was gone.  School became virtual, with a hand-me-down Chromebook and teachers who had never used Zoom. The softball season was up in the air. “Keep doing drills at home,” her coach said, “We will be back in no time.” We live in the Northeast, so we were put on lockdown and became the epicenter of COVID-19 cases for months. That meant no social gatherings of any kind. 

Being a Color Code trainer for many years, I saw the writing on the wall.  This was bad for my Yellow daughter.  In her world, every bit of fun had been taken away.  The change was huge.  I watched my sparkling daughter become dark and withdrawn. She didn’t care about anything.  Yellows already struggle keeping themselves focused (squirrel), so she started sleeping until 2 p.m. and was up until 3 a.m.  Her room was a mess, and her grades started to suffer because she couldn’t structure herself. She couldn’t focus on what needed to get done and do it. 

I quickly realized I needed to create a new version of fun for her. Something, anything to make her smile. Quick trips to the Dollar Store to see if there were Hot Cheetos on the shelf became a huge event!  Dropping off groceries outside grandma’s house was noteworthy!  Calls we made to family were on FaceTime so we could interact in some way. 

She really missed her friends. I was determined to create some fun. With just a few clicks, an Amazon driver showed up with a box of assorted candy. I decided to make some special deliveries to her friends. It was a big deal for them. As soon as we’d pull in the driveway, her friend would come running out all excited. They’d run right up to the car window, because at that time we weren’t used to the 6 feet of separation yet. My daughter wouldn’t put the window down until they were at least 6 feet from the car (following the rules, that’s her Blue secondary). Once they were socially distanced, she’d toss her friend’s favorite candy out the window like it was a Halloween parade! They laughed and joked about how silly it all was. Occasionally, a mom would make an appearance, too (typically with a glass of wine in hand). They got to interact in person. It worked for a while.

But then it got boring, because, well…. Yellows get bored easily.  Those things that were fun get to be routine and then lose their luster. I needed to shake things up for her, so we started driving lessons.

My daughter has been driving riding mowers and golf carts for years. It felt like a natural progression, even though she is not of age quite yet. We just needed to add some fresh excitement into her quarantined world. We live in the country, and there was no one on the roads. I felt very safe when she was driving. So we started small drives around the backcountry roads. She loved it!  We jammed out to great tunes, checked in with the farm animals, and saw breathtaking sunsets along the way. In both cases, we had to create fun while making new memories!

My daughter is not the same person she was in 2019. Obviously, none of us are. I mourn the girl she used to be, but I have hope she will find her way back to a new sparkly version of herself.  This is a lesson for all of us: Embrace your Yellow no matter what it looks like!

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Mary Frances Mika is a Blue who has been facilitating Color Code classes for years. She has a degree in Psychology and has PHR, SHRM-CP, and CPTD certifications.  When she’s not training, Mary Frances connects with her White secondary self by gardening, bird watching, and reading.  She loves to see the impact the Color Code has on her participants.

How to optimize your Disney vacation according to your personality

It’s been more than a year since the Happiest Place on Earth closed its doors due to COVID-19 precautions, but at the end of this month, Disneyland will open its enchanted gates once again…for California residents. Those of us unlucky enough to live outside the Golden State only get to imagine the taste of Dole Whip, the smell of Pirates of the Caribbean (it’s a thing, I promise), and the beauty of the castle lit up after dark.  However, we will all be welcomed back to that happy place eventually, and when we are, we need to be prepared to optimize our vacation according to our personalities. The Reds will gear up to get the high score on Toy Story Midway Mania!, the Blues won’t forget to pack tissues in their fanny packs for when they see the Walt and Mickey statue again, the Yellows will set their alarms for the first time since their last Disney vacation and prepare to spend $100 on food alone, and the Whites will find that perfect spot in the shade to enjoy a churro-scented breeze and watch the Mark Twain glide across the water. Whether you’ve been to Disneyland 100 times or have never been before, read on to learn more about how each Color Code personality can enjoy Disneyland to its fullest. 

Yellows

“You’re dead if you aim only for kids. Adults are only kids grown up, anyway.” -Walt Disney

Giving Disney vacation advice to a Yellow feels like giving candy eating advice to a kid…Yellows were simply made for going to Disneyland. I remember going to Disneyland with my Yellow uncle as a kid. Without shame, he would belt out “Yo-ho, Yo-ho, a pirates’ life for me” alongside the animatronic Pirates of the Caribbean as we rode the ride. He’s always got some funny pose to strike right when the camera flashes on Splash Mountain, and he even hopes to go Disneyland by himself someday — he’s fun enough that he doesn’t need the company of others to be entertained. So although Yellows will have fun no matter what they do at Disneyland, I’m sure they’re always up for learning some tips to have even more fun. My advice? Instead of simply riding the rides, eating the food and browsing the shops (all good things), make Disneyland an even more interactive experience. Go on a photo scavenger hunt throughout the park, organize a flash mob, start a water fight and eat treats every hour on the hour. Just make sure whatever you are planning won’t get you kicked out of the park (don’t mind me, just a worried Blue over here.) 

Reds

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.” – Walt Disney

Reds, you are spending a pretty penny on this Disney trip, so go into it with an agenda. Forget about wasting your time in line for the spinning teacups if that’s not your jam or waiting for three hours for fireworks just to get a good spot (it’s you, you’ll get one anyway). Make a list of all the rides you want to go on and attractions you want to see ahead of time and spend the extra cash to get a MaxPass so you can reserve your spot from anywhere in the park. Also, avoid waiting in yet another line and always mobile order your food from the Disneyland app. By doing these things, you can maximize your time and ensure multiple rides on Space Mountain, a timely Disneyland corndog to prevent you from getting hangry and a few minutes to spare for when your Blue spouse begs you to go Disney Christmas ornament shopping with them. If you’re feeling particularly up for a challenge, compete with your family members to see who can find the most hidden Mickeys throughout the park — the winner gets sole custody of a Matterhorn macaroon. 

Blues

“You can design and create, and build the most wonderful place in the world. But it takes people to make the dream a reality.” -Walt Disney 

Blues, you are in good company at Disneyland, seeing as Walt Disney himself was a Blue. Since Blues are all about detail, I’d suggest doing your homework ahead of time and learning about some of the facts and hidden secrets about Disneyland so you can appreciate the experience that much more when you go. One of my personal favorite facts is that when It’s A Small World was created, water from each of the seven seas was poured into the water on the ride. Also, have you ever noticed the light that is left on in the window above the firehouse? It’s there to represent the spirit of Walt Disney being alive at Disneyland.  Trust me, there are a LOT of details at Disneyland just waiting for you to discover. And of course, would it be a true Disneyland experience for a Blue without spending it with those they love? Think about who your Disney dream team would be and start planning a trip with them now! 

Whites

“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.” -Walt Disney

When you think about crowded theme parks, a slow-paced vibe doesn’t usually come to mind, but the beauty of Disneyland is that there really is a pace for everyone. I’ve got my White personality dad to thank for that. While my dad loves the Haunted Mansion and the Indiana Jones ride as much as the next guy, he finds just as much joy in a loop around the park in the train or an air-conditioned viewing of Great Moments with Mr. Lincoln. He’s one to enjoy simply being in Disneyland. I remember being 10 years old and sitting for a long time with my dad watching a Beatles tribute band in the park. All was right with the world at that moment. I believe the White personalities can have just as much fun as the Yellows — and they may even enjoy some of the same activities — but they are also going to enjoy slowing down a bit and taking in the atmosphere of the Happiest Place on Earth. My advice to the Whites is to pick a favorite spot in the park to eat a favorite treat, smell the smells, hear the sounds and watch people experience some of the happiest times of their lives. 

Well, there you have it. Just a few tips for each of the Color Code personalities to make the most of a magical vacation. Are you a Disney fanatic? Let us know your personality type and your favorite part about Disneyland in the comments!   ____________________________________________

Megan Christensen is a Blue who has been writing her feelings for as long as she can remember. Megan graduated from BYU-Idaho in 2014 with a degree in communication. A lifelong fan of the Color Code, she’s thrilled to be the content editor of the blog and hopes to help as many people as possible become more self-aware. When she’s not writing, Megan can be found reading, doing yoga, and spending as much time as she can outdoors.

 

How to lose your best employees

You put a lot of attention into your search and hiring of a high-quality employee. It took 42 days and cost the company $4,129, but it paid off. He accepted your offer. This new employee received a competitive salary and excellent benefits—everything that will make him happy.

You put him in a department that best suits his impressive hard skills; confident he will bring much-needed value to the team. At first, he proved to be everything you had hoped for. His enthusiasm was infectious, and the team began outperforming their previous numbers.

Then, the subtle changes begin. He still has a strong work ethic but no longer seems excited about the job. His coworkers are feeling it, too. From previous experience, you know this is just the beginning. Soon, he’ll become disengaged and start wearing interview suits to work. He’s already headed for the door.

Trying to get a handle on the problem, you call in his manager, who blithely comments that he was working outside the job’s scope. Now he isn’t.

Managers can play a major role in designing motivating, meaningful jobs. The best managers go out of their way to help people do work they enjoy—even if it means rotating them out of roles where they’re excelling.

Yet, managers are keen to put hard skills into play without discovering more about employees’ needs and wants—the actual gauge of happiness and productivity. What excites them? What are their passions? Equally important, what pushes their buttons? What makes them regret their decision to accept your offer?

Personality plays a huge role in what an employee needs and wants in a job and what they don’t want. Based on each color, here are some sure-fire ways to have them heading for the door:

REDS

Don’t allow them to lead

Reds are natural leaders. If you put them in charge of a project, it will get done. They thrive on challenge and productivity. They measure their success—you don’t have to do it for them.

Embarrass them publicly

Nothing will get a Red’s dander up more than criticizing them in front of their peers. Reds need to be respected, and that means looking good at their job. When addressing issues with a Red, do it behind closed doors. Be direct, specific, and logical.

Ignore their ideas

Reds are visionary. They can look forward and see each piece neatly fit into the puzzle. When they present an idea, we often don’t even know there is a puzzle. It’s easy to discount ideas, but remember, Reds don’t make hasty judgments. They weigh everything based on how successful it will be for them. If you ignore their opinions, you may eventually have a competitor rather than a valued employee.

Use an authoritarian approach

“Because I’m the boss!” is a phrase that will backfire whenever used on a Red. It isn’t legitimate. If you want a Red to come around to your way of thinking, present your issues in an unemotional, factual manner. They will respect you for it.

BLUES

Don’t express appreciation

If you want to lose a valued Blue, ignore their accomplishments. Otherwise, express your appreciation often and sincerely. Blues go to great lengths to make sure that their work is complete and accurate. There are times you might view their work as overkill, but take the time to listen and compliment their thoroughness. 

Make them feel guilty

Blues are loyal and committed, and because of that, can be guilted into most anything. They will stay up all night to complete a project, even if they feel conflicted about their priorities. 

Ask them to make a quick decision

Blues need time to mull things over before they make a decision. Yes or no answers won’t be forthcoming. They will need to explain how and why they made the decision. 

WHITES

Force confrontation

White personalities will go out of their way to avoid arguments, even if they believe they are correct. Give them a chance to collect their thoughts and present their opinion. Hear them out in a quiet, non-confrontational way.

Demand leadership

Most White personalities are content to contribute from a comfortable, non-threatening space. They don’t appreciate office drama. If a White shows an ability and desire to lead, they will be great at it, but persuading them into accepting a leadership position they don’t want would be a mistake.

Be domineering

White personalities often keep their feelings to themselves, so if they don’t react to your dominant behavior, don’t be fooled. Whites are silently stubborn. Don’t mistake their silence for acquiescence. Learn to read the signs.

Expect immediate verbal expression

When it comes to verbal expression, Whites need time to form a logical and conclusive response. They are rarely “knee-jerk” in their opinions. Be patient. Your wait will pay off. 

YELLOWS

Discount them

Yellows are intelligent, creative, and socially dynamic. It would be a mistake to discount them as lightweights. In addition to the hard skills they possess, they bring a lot to the table. They are upbeat and positive, and it rubs off on the team. Their people connections are invaluable to the company.

Control their time

Seriously, it can’t be done, and you will only be frustrated and make them resentful if you try. That’s not to say you won’t get a Yellow’s time in abundance. If they are excited about a project, you’ll be getting emails at all hours of the night. Yet, Yellows can only handle stressful situations for short periods of time. 

Ignore them

Yellows are motivated by praise and appreciation—preferably in front of their peers. Don’t ignore their accomplishments. If they have done a good job and you let everyone know, they will want more and perform better to get it.

Be sober in your criticism

Yellows resent authority and can be defiant of leaders, but they accept guidance. By couching your criticism as upbeat and optimistic coaching, you will get a much better result. 

To keep your star employees, involve them in deciding where is the best fit for them. Creating a workplace that meets employees’ needs and wants is a win/win for the company and the employee. Employee engagement and retention will improve if they love what they are doing. 

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Teresa Glenn has been working with the Color Code since 2006, where her main focus is product development. She has been in the publishing and product development field for over 20 years. Teresa is a core Red with a strong Yellow secondary.

What to Know About Dating a White Personality

When you’re dating, have both eyes open. When you’re married, keep one eye shut. 

 This is the advice from the mother of one of my clients. My client, a Blue personality, was dating somebody with a White personality. He was patient and kind, and she felt secure and comfortable. She was familiar with the Color Code, as she had participated in the communication training, and eventually became my workshop assistant.

 She told me that knowing his strengths and limitations opened her eyes to who she was dating. She was more patient with the limitations of the White personality. For example, he wasn’t verbal about his emotions. 

 Without knowing the Color Code, that would have been a red flag for her, especially if it was someone she was considering marrying. She knew not to force him to share his feelings, though. If he did share his feelings, they could have been dishonest just to keep the peace. But although she was patient with him, it was definitely out of her comfort zone to wait for him to express himself and not know all of his emotions. 

 I asked her how she reconciled this limitation if he was going to become her husband. Her response was that he proved to be loyal and sincere. His gift of clarity shined, because he knew how she was feeling. He always asked her how she was doing and kept asking until he really understood how she felt.

 Even though White personalities are not strong in expressing emotion, he demonstrated strong emotional intelligence. If he would have defaulted in both little expression of feelings and a lack of emotional intelligence, the relationship would have died.

Why don’t Whites express their feelings? For him, he didn’t need her to know how he was feeling. It wasn’t important to him in the relationship. They did end up getting married, and several years into their marriage, she started to push the issue of knowing more about his emotions. By the time they reached this point, he was secure in the relationship, and it was a fair trade.

 At a certain point, when couples know each other well, it may be appropriate to push for something that is uncomfortable for the other person. However, it should be done with care. For my client, she needed to know how her husband was feeling. This is also a demonstration of strong emotional intelligence. He was secure enough at that point to have that conversation.

 When dealing with White personalities, we must be sensitive to their needs while also being honest about our own. It is possible to have a relationship with respect for both parties. You just have to keep working at it. We love our friends with White personalities! For our readers with White personalities, what is it about expressing emotion do you find challenging? Let us know in the comments below!

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Denise Parmenter is an organization and relationship coach who can work with any business or organization, learn their vibe, and give them the communication tools necessary to foster organizational change and bring explosive growth and impressive results to the bottom line. Denise offers a transformational edge while preserving what you do best. She has a Bachelor’s degree in communication focused on interpersonal and marriage studies. She is an International Coaching Federation coach, the gold standard in coaching, and has an SHRM-CP, a human resources certification.

Using the Color Code to Strengthen a Boss-Employee Relationship

Editor’s Note: Names have been changed in the following story to protect the individual’s identities 

In my executive coaching practice, I have found that differences in communication styles can play a larger role in someone’s success in an organization more than other skills. That was the case when Barb reached out to me about some difficulties she was having with her boss in her new job.  

In addition to training webinars, I use the Color Code as a tool to help solve real-world business problems. Barb was brought into a mid-size industrial organization to lead their HR department.  She was so excited for this new opportunity as it represented a promotion, more money and growth for her career. In her new role, Barb was reporting directly to the CEO. This was exciting, but she had to admit that she was a little bit intimidated.  Her new boss was asking her to be a thought partner and to be more strategic. He wanted her input on compensation strategies and employment engagement.  Barb was excited about these initiatives, but she did not seem to be connecting with her new boss. They were different. Barb was located in the South, and Pierre’s office was on the West Coast.  Pierre, who had previously been a CEO for another company, was very strategic. Barb, a first time HR Partner, was very tactical. Pierre was French and Barb was African American. 

When she zigged, he zagged.  When she went right, he went left.  Have you ever had a boss that you just could not connect with? “We seem to be speaking two different languages,” Barb told me during our initial discovery session.  Her boss even mentioned a performance improvement plan during their last one-on-one meeting. This implied that her new job was in jeopardy!

Barb came to me six months into her new role. We discussed her situation in depth, and then we put together a plan. I use the Color Code as my initial assessment in my coaching practice. I have found that it serves dual purposes: It helps the leader to articulate their strengths and limitations, and it allows me an opportunity to get to know them from an objective perspective. In Barb’s situation, we went a step further.  We used the “Quick Coding 101” tool to determine Pierre’s Color Code. The Quick Coding 101 Tool helps you guess the primary and secondary colors of an individual who may not have taken the training.  With this information, you can intelligently adjust your communication style and better connect to the recipient of your information.  That’s when the puzzle of Barb and Pierre’s relationship began to come together! 

Barb is a primary White personality with a Blue secondary. Very task-oriented, Barb often needs time to gather her thoughts about a response to Pierre’s requests.  She was not confident speaking “off of the cuff” on strategic subjects.  After discussing Pierre’s communication style, we determined that Pierre is a primary Blue with a secondary Red.  

I suggested that Barb alter the manner in which she presents information to Pierre. She could start by preparing an agenda before each meeting. That way she would feel more prepared for each interaction and not be forced to speak “off of the cuff.”  This could give her more confidence, which would put Pierre more at ease. In addition to this, Pierre, as a primary Blue, is emotional.  I suggested that Barb invest a little time at the beginning of each one-on-one connecting with Pierre emotionally. “How was your weekend, Pierre?” “How are the kids?” And because Pierre is a secondary Red (and complex), Barb should follow up each meeting with a document to track progress on each task. This will give the Red in Pierre a logical sense of accomplishment!

Barb made these changes to her delivery style and experienced a  breakthrough in her relationship with Pierre.  After weeks of successfully delivering to Pierre, Barb went from being an employee in danger of losing her job to a high-potential employee.  Barb was recommended to attend training at the company’s home offices in France! Two years later, she was recommended for a promotion. 

With a deeper understanding of her own skills and some intentional thoughts about the wants and needs of her listener, Barb began to reach her full potential. Have you ever experienced a miscommunication in the workplace due to personality differences? How did you resolve it? Let us know in the comments below. 

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DC Lyons is the owner of Korrior, Inc. He is a licensed Color Code Trainer and John Maxwell Certified Trainer/Coach/Speaker. His first book, “With Worn Out Tools: Navigating the Rituals of Mid Life” will be released later this year.

The Value of Having Self-Aware People in the Workplace

Many of the world’s most successful business people such as John D. Rockefeller and Jack Ma as well as renowned psychologists and researchers including John Mayer, Peter Salovey, and Daniel Goleman, have for years touted the importance of emotional intelligence in leaders as a critical factor for a company’s success. 

But what about the rest of those at a company? 

Does increased emotional intelligence in managers, employees, and staff directly translate into more effective, higher producing, and happier teams at work? 

In an article titled “What Makes a Leader,” written for The Harvard Business Review, Daniel Goleman makes some great points about self-awareness that I feel answer this question when examined in an employee context, which I have attempted to do here.

Also, I will take things one step further by giving examples from a Color Code lens to showcase how a simple personality assessment can give employees a tool to double their self-awareness in less than an hour.

But first, just so we are on the same page, let’s define what emotional intelligence is: 

Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others,” according to Psychology Today. 

To drill down on that a little deeper, according to Daniel Goleman, the renowned American psychologist and researcher who helped to popularize and define emotional intelligence, there are five key elements to it:

  • Self-awareness
  • Self-regulation
  • Motivation
  • Empathy
  • Social skills

It’s interesting to note that from our 30+ years of research into personality at Color Code, we’ve found that self-regulation is something that tends to come naturally to White personalities. Motivation is something that tends to come naturally to Red personalities. Empathy is something that tends to come naturally to Blue personalities. And social skills tend to come naturally to Yellow personalties.  

However, self-awareness is something that doesn’t seem to come naturally to any of the personality types. Yet, it is the easiest way to boost a person’s emotional intelligence.

So What Is Self-Awareness?

The Oxford English Dictionary defines self-awareness as conscious knowledge of one’s character, feelings, motives, and desires.

Okay, got it. So How Does Self-Awareness Help My Team Members?

Truthfully, there is a myriad of ways. However, in the interest of time and keeping Daniel Goleman’s article in mind, I’ve identified in his article five of the strongest ways team members and companies will benefit when given tools and opportunities to increase their self-awareness.

Let’s dive in!

  • Self-Awareness Helps Team Members Keep Their Cool

In his article, Dr. Goleman writes, “People who have a high degree of self-awareness recognize how their feelings affect them, other people, and their job performance. Thus, a self-aware person who knows that tight deadlines bring out the worst in him plans his time carefully and gets his work done well in advance. Another person with high self-awareness will be able to work with a demanding client. She will understand the client’s impact on her moods and the deeper reasons for her frustration. ‘Their trivial demands take us away from the real work that needs to be done,’ she might explain. And she will go one step further and turn her anger into something constructive.”

So not only does an employee having self-awareness help them plan tasks accordingly, but it also helps them take a step back from their emotions and then harness them into a productive context instead of being ruled by them.

From a Color Code perspective: Knowing the strengths, limitations, needs, and wants of your personality in contrast to those of others is incredibly helpful in mitigating frustration because you can see where both you and they are coming from and are empowered with tools to “speak their language.” Also, knowing your own color helps you to take a step back and consider how your actions or words might be being interpreted. Not to mention you can create systems and plans for work tasks that both leverage your strengths and help compensate for your natural limitations. 

  • Self-Awareness Helps Team Members Find Their Place To Shine & Grow

Dr. Goleman goes on to explain that, “Self-awareness extends to a person’s understanding of his or her values and goals. Someone who is highly self-aware knows where he is headed and why; so, for example, he will be able to be firm in turning down a job offer that is tempting financially but does not fit with his principles or long-term goals. A person who lacks self-awareness is apt to make decisions that bring on inner turmoil by treading on buried values. “The money looked good so I signed on,” someone might say two years into a job, “but the work means so little to me that I’m constantly bored.” The decisions of self-aware people mesh with their values; consequently, they often find work to be energizing.”

Team members that are self-aware are much more likely to find opportunities at work that speak to their interests and strengths rather than just chasing the money. This helps tremendously with employee retention and effective teams because not only will team members want to stick around, but their drive will be for more than a paycheck and thus be happier and more effective all around.

From a Color Code perspective, knowing what drives you can help you make important decisions about what careers to consider, what promotions to seek, and where the best fit might be for you in a company. It helps you see talents you have and weaknesses that should be addressed if you want to thrive in the career or job of your choosing.

  • Self-Awareness Helps Team Members Manage Constructive Criticism

Next, Daniel Goleman goes on to write, “Self-awareness can also be identified during performance reviews. Self-aware people know—and are comfortable talking about—their limitations and strengths, and they often demonstrate a thirst for constructive criticism. By contrast, people with low self-awareness interpret the message that they need to improve as a threat or a sign of failure.”

I wanted to focus on the “they demonstrate a thirst for constructive criticism” part. This is HUGE. Because, let’s face it, when most people are criticized, many times they want to get defensive, rationalize, blame others, or minimize the issue. BUT, if we can teach our teams to view constructive criticism as a gift to improve and an opportunity to learn rather than some sort of attack that requires a counter-attack, our teams will innovate much faster and conflicts at the office will be reduced. 

For a Color Code example, a Red personality that naturally wants to hide insecurities tightly can learn to put systems in place that invite feedback and criticism as part of company culture and opportunity for growth instead of getting defensive. Or on the flip side, when giving constructive criticism, a Red can consider the color of the personality whom they are providing the feedback and adjust their message accordingly. 

  • Self-Awareness Helps Team Members Know When To Ask For Help

Dr. Goleman also writes that “Self-aware people can also be recognized by their self-confidence. They have a firm grasp of their capabilities and are less likely to set themselves up to fail by, for example, overstretching on assignments. They know, too, when to ask for help. And the risks they take on the job are calculated. They won’t ask for a challenge that they know they can’t handle alone. They’ll play to their strengths.”

When your team members have more self-awareness, they, in turn, have a very valuable type of self-confidence. It’s a type of self-confidence that is based in truth and will ultimately get the right people in front of the right tasks more often.

For a Color Code example, someone who is aware of the strengths and limitations of their core personality color can feel a sense of confidence in their strengths and play to them as well as take steps to create systems or surround themselves with team members that help offset their natural limitations. 

  • Self-Awareness Helps Team Leaders Assess Accurately

 The final quote I want to highlight from the article by Dr. Goleman is: “Leaders are constantly required to make judgment calls that require a candid assessment of capabilities—their own and those of others. Do we have the management expertise to acquire a competitor? Can we launch a new product within six months? People who assess themselves honestly—that is, self-aware people—are well suited to do the same for the organizations they run.”

As a leader, you need to have the right people on your team to accomplish the goals of the company. Do you have the right people for the job? How can you train your team members to have the skills they need to take your company to the next level? Having self-aware managers, team leaders, and team members helps everyone take an accurate reading of the current soft and hard skillset the team possesses and makes seeing the best way to move forward easier.

From a Color Code perspective, we know a good team needs the talents and strengths of all four personality types working together to thrive long-term. One person’s limitations can be offset by another’s strengths. Knowing what drives your team members, as well as their strengths, can help you place them on the right team and with the right tools where they can add the most value, feel the most fulfilled, and ultimately thrive. 

There you have it! Five reasons to consider seeking opportunities to increase the self-awareness of yourself and your team. 

And, if you’re curious about the Color Code personality assessment packages for business teams, visit www.colorcode.com/store to learn more! 

Here’s to you and your team!

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Joe England has known about the Color Code ever since 1994 when his Grandpa caused quite a family controversy by “quick coding” everyone.  Luckily, Joe could see the value in what Grandpa Don was going for and years later, when the opportunity arose to work for the Color Code in marketing and product development, Joe jumped at the chance. He is a Yellow, enjoys Swedish Fish, travel, surfing, snowboarding and being a dad. 

 

Reds and Blues–Power vs Intimacy

Red: Do what I’ll say and we’ll get along just fine.

Blue: Tell me you appreciate me, and I’ll walk to the ends of the earth for you.

Welcome to the relationship of Reds and Blues. A relationship combination that you’ve probably heard us lovingly refer to in the past as “Blood, Sweat, and Tears.”  

Truthfully, we could talk about this complicated relationship combination for days, but this article will focus on the foundational difference in MOTIVE that perhaps causes the greatest struggle for these two strong personalities when trying to make a relationship work successfully (whether it be personal or professional).

As you most likely know by now, Reds are motivated by Power, while Blues are motivated by Intimacy. The problem is, that typically neither offers what the other wants without first demanding that his or her own needs be met.

Dr. Hartman has shared in the past a story which demonstrates this:

“A national sales manager (Red) for a training company requests telephone calls from each of his thirty trainers to inform him about the results of seminars they conducted. Results to him mean numbers, referrals, and bottom line. One of his top trainers is Blue. Results to him mean successful life changes and connection with his audience, as well as the bottom line. 

Prior to Blue’s knowing the Color Code, their weekly phone calls went like this: Blue trainers calls Red sales manager. Red sales manager is unavailable and prefers message to be left on his voicemail. Blue wants to talk about the seminar directly, so he leaves a message to call him back. Frustrated Red sales manager calls back because he needs the numbers that Blue trainer refused to divulge without sharing stories of people and connections from the seminars. They play phone tag three times and finally connect. The dialogue follows:

Blue trainer: had thirty-seven people at the seminar. Two people gave me referral cards for other companies to contact. But the best part was this guy who comes up to me afterward and tells me how the seminar has saved his job. He understands how to apply time-management principles better at home as well. He also wanted me to know—

Red sales manager: Thanks, Tom. I got the numbers and I gotta go! 

Both hang up frustrated. The Red sales manager hates having to hear from Tom each week, but he’s one of his top trainers. Tom is frustrated every time the sales manager stops him from sharing what really matters to him from the seminar. 

After Tom learned the Color Code, their dialogue went like this: 

Blue trainer: (calls Red sales manager and gets voice mail) Hi. This is Tom. Had thirty-seven people in Dallas. Got two referrals and faxed them to Cindy for follow-up. ‘Bye for now.

Red sales manager: (smiles listening to voicemail, transfers the numbers to his report, and calls Tom regularly to check on how he is doing because he wants him to feel connected since he’s a top trainer.

Note: Blue learned to speak Red’s language. Red gets his numbers, and Blue doesn’t take Red’s lack of interest personally. Blue is currently entertaining offers at other companies where he feels more connection. Red offered an increase in salary. Blue accepted money and is still looking.”

When it comes to making marriages and romantic relationships last long term, these two personality types can experience an even more intense struggle of Motives. Thankfully, their shared strong sense of commitment and loyalty substantially increases their chances for success if they are both willing to work at it. And, we always say it’s almost impossible to beat this relationship combination when both parties have paid their dues to become charactered because they both will show up strong and fight for each other and the relationship. However, if either party lets their natural differences and limitations prevent them from meeting the needs of their partner, it’s extremely difficult for this combination to function healthily long-term.

If you’d like us to explore more of this relationship combination—or any particular aspect of it, let us know in the comments on our recent Facebook or Instagram post on this and we will do our best in the coming weeks. And of course, if you don’t want to wait for us, you can always get a very solid understanding of this relationship combination by working with one of our certified independent trainers or exploring the free relationship videos that come with the purchase of a full personality assessment at colorcode.com

Thanks for stopping by! Until next time, here’s to you and your relationships.

—The Color Code Team 

Joe England has known about the Color Code ever since 1994 when his Grandpa caused quite a family controversy by “quick coding” everyone.  Luckily, Joe could see the value in what Grandpa Don was going for and years later, when the opportunity arose to work for the Color Code in marketing and product development, Joe jumped at the chance. He is a Yellow, enjoys Swedish Fish, travel, surfing, snowboarding and being a dad.