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Recently, I had the fun opportunity to help create a mini Messenger lesson for our Facebook fans that was designed to teach parents specifically how Color Code helps them and their kids.
However, since many of our blog readers are not on Facebook, I thought it would be fun to share that info here as well in the form of an article.
So, without further adieu, let’s explore eight of my favorite ways Color Code helps parents and kids.
One HUGE way Color Code helps parents and their kids is it frees them both from many unnecessary frustrations simply by helping them make sense of each other’s personality styles. We all are different, and Color Code helps us make allowances for these differences and learn to navigate them with mutual understanding.
For example, if you know your child is a Red, you know she is looking for results and will challenge you directly. Knowing this about her personality instantly frees you from personalizing her challenges and empowers you with tools to better meet both of your needs.
Another way Color Code helps parents is teaching them how to understand and approach their child’s communication style so they are no longer faced with a child who may not currently be able to “hear” them because of how messages are being presented. Parents have a lot of important messages they want to convey to their kids, but many times kids don’t listen (or at least don’t hear) simply because of how the message is being presented. Color Code can help out.
For example, if you learn that your child is a White and what that means, you’ll know he resents being pressured to do things. As a parent, of course, you want to see your child thrive. And the fact that your child is naturally unmotivated and uninvolved — two innate limitations of the White personality —may make you nag. However, hounding him to do his homework or pressuring him to join a team sport will probably not be received well, because Whites dislike being controlled. As a Red or a Blue parent, this is a considerable challenge because of your controlling nature. But instead of pressuring your White child into doing things, Color Code would suggest ways you can show patience without trying to rush them or be cruel or insensitive if you want to avoid the oh-so-frustrating “silently stubborn” trap Whites are famous for.
Color Code also helps parents understand their own personal biases in relationship to their child’s personality. This is extremely helpful as a parent, because when we understand our own wants and needs in relation to our child’s, we can clearly see how we enhance and detract from our child’s success.
For example, if you are a Yellow parent, you tend to welcome change and getting over things comes easily to you. But, if you know your child is a Blue, you’ll know that too much change is difficult for him, and he has a much harder time letting things go than you. Knowing this will help you show up for him in the way he needs you to show up instead of expecting him to handle it your way and not understanding what the problem is.
Color Code also gives parents insights into setting their kids up for success based specifically on their personality style.
For example, if one of your children is Yellow, you most likely have noticed that even though she is so much fun and great at many things, she seems to have a naturally harder time staying focused and finishing projects. And because of this, she needs a different type of help to cross finish lines for homework, goals, and creating healthy life habits. Combining this knowledge with our tips and tricks for parenting a Yellow can help you create a schedule and system that will provide her with the blend of freedom, reward systems, and playfulness she needs, while also adding in the structure and limits required for her to succeed. Obviously it goes without saying that Color Code doesn’t provide all the answers, but it absolutely points parents in the right direction to get their kids the tools they need for success much faster than without.
And speaking of setting up kids for success, let’s now take a look at a few ways Color Code specifically helps children.
One of the major ways Color Code helps kids and teens is by giving them a significant jump in self-awareness. This is so helpful, because experts have determined that self-awareness is a critical factor in creating success in life. It leads to better decision-making, greater self-control, greater self-confidence, and positive self-development to name just a few of its benefits. And, one of the best reasons Color Code is so helpful with self-awareness for children and teens is because it’s actually easy to remember and to apply.
Additionally, when children or teens are able to take a Color Code age-appropriate assessment for themselves, it gives them an active voice in assessing who they believe they are at the core. Not only are they much more receptive to this than merely being assessed by others and told what color personality they are believed to be, but young people are especially open to discovering and questioning new insights about themselves. They feel far less threatened than adults by the prospect of looking inward at their inherent strengths and limitations. And, for many, this awareness comes with added self-esteem and self-reflection, because it provides an identity separate from any other influence and frees them to see themselves at their raw, innate core.
Once youth understand their Driving Core Motive and what that means for them, they are able to leverage the insights about their strengths and limitations along with the activity in their assessment to come up with an age-appropriate self-awareness plan, gain leadership skills, develop better study habits, understand their parents and peers better, as well as simply have greater self-esteem and self-assurance about who they are as a person.
And the last big thing we want to mention is that the concepts of color-coding provide young people with powerful tools for understanding and empathizing with others—even previously difficult and different people. Each youth assessment not only educates an individual about their own personality type, but also about other people’s basic wants and needs, strengths and limitations. The insights found within their assessment results are specifically designed to give age-appropriate understanding about why people behave differently from each other, make allowances for those differences, and champion our diversity in personalities.
And there you have it! My favorite eight ways Color Code helps parents and youth.
But more importantly, hopefully YOU saw a few ways in which you and your family could benefit.
If you did, I wanted you to know that we are giving away a FREE download of our new 40-page parenting guide when you purchase any of our youth or adult assessments. We worked hard on packing it with great info, (I was on the team that created it, in fact!) and I know you will find a lot of good stuff in it.
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Here’s to you and more parent-child bliss! 😉
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Joe England has known about the Color Code ever since 1994 when his Grandpa caused quite a family controversy by “quick coding” everyone. Luckily, Joe could see the value in what Grandpa Don was going for and years later, when the opportunity arose to work for the Color Code, Joe jumped at the chance. He is a Yellow, enjoys Swedish Fish and typically gets along with children better than adults.
