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November 3, 2014

How Compliments Can Strengthen Your Relationships

“Everybody likes a compliment.” -Abraham Lincoln Everybody does like a compliment when it is heartfelt and sincere. Nothing gives us greater validation and self-assurance than the recognition provided by someone we respect. According to Phycologytoday.com’s article The Art of the Compliment, “Focusing on and noticing the good qualities in the world around us gives our moods a boost all by itself. Plus, it is a kind of cognitive training, a training of attention. In addition, compliments amplify positivity; they not only deliver positive effects to others, those effects bounce back on us, ramping up the positive atmo

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June 29, 2014

Ask the Expert

What do these Colors mean anyway? I recently had a person ask me if I could better explain what these four Colors are so that she could better understand how this whole system works and how to apply it to her life. Most people, she said, just hear about "Red," "Blue," "White," and "Yellow" and then a few behavioral qualities that describe what each type is like. She also wanted to know what the Colors themselves mean. I thought this was such a great question! It's at the heart of Dr. Hartman's theory, and I probably too often assume that everybody understands it already. So here's my quick lesson on MOTIVES. Whenever I deliver a Color Co

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January 23, 2013

Ask the Expert

Good day; My name is Rene; I just wonder why when redoing the test there would be drastic changes in one's color code? My friend had done the test in 2009 with strong blue as primary color and white as secondary color. Now, after redoing the test, she says she is still blue as primary color but her secondary color has changed from white to red. She is very confused regarding her new results. I am puzzled too as you mention our color coding are coming from birth. Any explanation why their would be such a drastic change a few years down the road?   Thank you for yo

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September 27, 2012

Confessions of a Red—Trick or Treat

I have two granddaughters, both born and raised in the same household by the same parents and yet, they couldn’t be more different. The oldest, age 12, is clearly a Red. She is determined, confident, impatient, and more than a little bossy. Her younger sister, age 8, is as Yellow as can be. She is happy, charismatic, and, yes, sociable. I love her with all my heart, but sometimes I want to ask her to please be quiet for just a minute to give her Red grandma a little respite. But, I don’t. As Halloween approaches, all the talk is about what they “want to be” on that magical occasion. My Red invariably goes for the creepy costumes. Be

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July 12, 2012

Ask the Expert

Dear Jeremy, I have a question about the Color Code Personality Assessment. I just took it prior to attending a workshop last week and I came out Blue. I remember taking it back in High School and coming out Yellow. Is it possible that I’ve changed my color, and how does that happen? Victoria Dear Victoria, I get this question a lot. At almost every workshop we teach, someone brings this up, so let me give you the short answer, and then I’ll explain… The answer is no—it is not possible that you’ve changed your color. Pretty simple and straightforward, right? Okay, let me explain. This usually happens, and I don’t mean to embar

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January 27, 2012

100% Responsibility

Taking Ownership For Your Relationships

Taylor Hartman, Ph.D.

When was the last time you accepted full responsibility for a problem in your life?  When was the last time you heard anyone say, “That’s completely my fault.  I am 100% Responsible for what happened and will do whatever is necessary to make it right!” We have created a society of victims with a cultural backdrop that actually promotes ”blame, denial and rationalization” rather than responsibility and ownership.  Today, if you smoke three packs of cigarettes a day for forty years and die of lung

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