Red: “Do what I say, and we'll get along just fine.” Blue: “Tell me you appreciate me, and I'll walk to the ends of the earth for you.” Welcome to the complicated relationship of Reds and Blues. A relationship combination that you've probably heard us lovingly refer to in the past as "Blood, Sweat, and Tears."   Truthfully, we could talk about this combination for hours, but for the sake of time, this article will focus on one particular tendency of the relationship blend and why it can cause problems if left unchecked: The tendency that neither Reds nor Blues typically offer (at least for very long) what the other perso

As a Transformational & Intentional Creativity Life Coach, I am a fan of self-help books.  Many are full of very insightful perspectives and insights that have shifted my thinking, and some have truly been a catalyst for significant healing in my life. And I’m not alone. It’s estimated that the self-help industry will reach $14 billion by 2025.  Despite my being a fan of self-help books, there is one thing that gnaws at me about many of them. Many of them overlook that we’re not all the same. They give cookie-cutter solutions versus giving tools or recommendations based on understanding who we are as individuals (i.e., what's good

Many organizations have restructured at some point in their history.  Some do it regularly.  Where I work, it was never done, which made this series of events I’m about to tell you about even more impactful.  Our Color Code make up greatly affects how we deal with change.  Let’s go back to February 2020.  Do you remember what it was like back then?  The world had not yet been flipped upside down by Covid.  No lockdowns, no working from home, no constant state of change. I was working in a team of eight people, with several contract employees and the rest seasoned training professionals. Our corporate director met with us about s

Is having motivation important for success? I am of the opinion that finding motivation when it is lacking is essential for success in all areas of life. In this article, I’ll share my number one tip for teens finding motivation by using their DCM (Driving Core Motive), and how I used it with my son and his experience playing on the varsity basketball team.  As a teen life coach, I work with young and impressionable minds, and many of them lack motivation. When a parent calls or reaches out to me on social media about their teenager lacking motivation, I immediately send them to a Color Code personality assessment. Lacking motivation is

I saw a meme the other day that made me laugh and also rang pretty true. It said, “Nobody claim 2022 as ‘your year.’ We’re all going to walk in real slow. Be good. Be quiet. Be cautious and respectful. Don’t touch anything.” Doesn’t that just sound like wisdom from a White personality? It’s safe to say the pandemic has been a nightmare for all of us in one way or another. The Blues desperately missed building deep, in-person connections with loved ones. Yellows missed all the parties and sociability.  Reds, who were used to living in a fast-paced world, had to learn how to slow down a little. For the Whites, one of the

Can Color Code help an aspiring college student find the “best-fit” major? The short answer—YES.   The more complicated answer—it will help, but it will not tell you exactly what to study. So… How can it help?   There is an important concept in interviewing and hiring the best person for a job; it’s called motivational fit. The idea of motivational fit is that the best-fit candidate will have a natural motivation to do the type of work required for a job. A common question to determine motivational fit is, “Tell me about your ideal workday.”  The candidate might respond:  “I’d like to have flexib

Each of the personality colors has their own strengths, and they also have their own areas that they need to work on, known as natural limitations. Relationships are a constant learning process, and when you’re stressed, you might find that the challenges linked to your personality color become enhanced. Life coaching is a process that aims to help you alter your mindset in order to manifest a more positive lifestyle. You might be familiar with seeing a life coach for career motivation or for increasing your confidence, but how can seeing a life coach lead to forming stronger relationships with your loved ones? By addressing individual p

“Hi I had a criticism of this questionnaire. There are some items where none of the responses applied. I would say that was true on about three or four of these. There should therefore either be a ‘none apply’ or more options, because this will skew results. I think your assessment is correct except that it is wrong on a couple important fronts — about how I am now. This asks questions about being a child, but for someone like myself, who has been on a path of self-development since a young age, the way I was when I was a child is different than how I was as a teenager and as an adult and also from the things I’ve h

Read More