Mr. Jeremy- Hello. My name is Emma, and I am a Blue. When I received my test results I noticed that Blues have a lot of needs to be fulfilled. They need to be appreciated, to be understood, be kind to, etc. However, I don't feel like I'm getting these needs met. I also don't know how to ask for them, because I feel like that is imposing too much on other busy people. Is there a way I can either eliminate these needs or fulfill them myself? If not, how do I ask for these needs to be met? I don't want to impose on others or scare them off because I'm needy. Thanks. ========== Dear Emma, Thank you so much for writing in with your excellent

St. Patrick’s day is celebrated on March 17th throughout the world. Throughout the celebration, you will most likely see a someone wearing t-shirt that exclaiming “Kiss me, I’m Irish” no matter whether the wearer is Irish or not. On March 17th, there’s a bit o' the Irish in all of us. Another saying you’ll find oft repeated  “The Luck of the Irish”. The origin of the saying is an old one. It could actually mean good luck or bad. Some believe that the Irish are inherently lucky while others believe that the Irish people have suffered great hardship throughout history and the term is one of irony. So, when talking about luck,

"My name is Ellen--I'm a White" This month's Ask the Expert article comes from a series of questions submitted by one of our subscribers, "Ellen". Her actual email, while excellent, is too long to post here, however, we have summarized key questions in the responses below. ==================== Hello, Ellen. Thank you so much for your email, and your excellent questions! I hope that my responses will be helpful to you. I’d like to address three of your main questions here in that hope: Q: Do you have any advice for Whites on “success in a solo business setup”? (You mentioned feeling that business seems out of Character for a White.)

Dear Jeremy, I have a concern and could use some advice. I'm a strong blue. I work as a nurse and deal with Red personalities at times. As you can guess, these Reds come in the form of doctors. I have one doctor currently who enjoys belittling and intimidating me in front of other medical team members. My first and only contact so far was not pleasant. I have had texting communication (his preferred way to communicate) since then but not face to face. I know I need to demand respect from him or he will continue this behavior. Do you have any other suggestions. I'm not feeling any support from my 2 supervisors. I've looked through the book

How to Hire and Retain Great Employees We’ve all heard the term “a butt for every seat” and it has never been truer than when applied to business. With employment rates climbing and jobs becoming more plentiful, the question is “How can I be sure it’s the right butt, and if it is, how do I keep it in the seat I provide?” Right Butt/Right Seat Finding the right person for the job is half the battle. There’s no doubt that certain jobs are best suited to certain personalities. According to Susan M. Heathfield, Human Resources Expert, you should “Select the right people in the first place through behavior-based testing and compete

4 Building Blocks for Charactered Children The family is gathered for the holidays. You have gone out of your way to search out the perfect gift. You may have spent more than planned, but you believe it will be worth it when you see the light in the child’s eye. Then, everything implodes. The child opens the gift and says, “Is that ALL?” or “I didn’t want this!” or “You got me clothes?!” You are torn between embarrassment and anger. You want to take the gift back from him, but fear you’ll look as immature as the child. Sadly, many of us are raising our children in a “is that all?” society. We

Hi Jeremy, My core color is Red (with a strong secondary blend of Blue and Yellow). My husband is a core White, with Yellow secondary traits. My issue: he thinks personality studies are stupid and a waste of time. I feel like he is limiting himself but refusing to understand himself and others... And limiting our relationship, since he doesn't get my need to share and be understood. Obviously I can't change him, but what do I do? I'm frustrated! Sincerely, Heather ==================== Hi, Heather. I'm sorry you are so frustrated. That would be very difficult. If it helps to know, you're definitely not alone. Many people have come to u

“Everybody likes a compliment.” -Abraham Lincoln Everybody does like a compliment when it is heartfelt and sincere. Nothing gives us greater validation and self-assurance than the recognition provided by someone we respect. According to Phycologytoday.com’s article The Art of the Compliment, “Focusing on and noticing the good qualities in the world around us gives our moods a boost all by itself. Plus, it is a kind of cognitive training, a training of attention. In addition, compliments amplify positivity; they not only deliver positive effects to others, those effects bounce back on us, ramping up the positive atmo

Hi, Jeremy. I have been a fan of the Color Code for years and use it constantly while working on my own personal development. My family are all well-versed in Color Code as well, and it is part of our ongoing dialogue. My question is, what do you do when somebody sees themselves as being one Color, but everyone around them sees them as being another Color entirely? Do you have some ideas on how to assess what is really going on? Thanks! Andre ========== Hello, Andre. Thanks for the question. Yes, that can be a tricky situation because the last thing th

You know what you did was wrong…you hurt someone and you feel guilt over it. Now it’s time to rebuild the relationship you jeopardized. What can you say to make the wronged party accept your apology? Saying you’re sorry is more difficult for some than others, but it is important that what you say is sincere and heartfelt. An empty apology is often worse than none at all, creating more pressure on your relationship. The first step is to own your wrongdoing. Take responsibility. Do not say things like, “I lost my temper because you…” or “I’m sorry I called you that name, but you make me so angry sometimes.” Blaming