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June 29, 2014

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What do these Colors mean anyway? I recently had a person ask me if I could better explain what these four Colors are so that she could better understand how this whole system works and how to apply it to her life. Most people, she said, just hear about "Red," "Blue," "White," and "Yellow" and then a few behavioral qualities that describe what each type is like. She also wanted to know what the Colors themselves mean. I thought this was such a great question! It's at the heart of Dr. Hartman's theory, and I probably too often assume that everybody understands it already. So here's my quick lesson on MOTIVES. Whenever I deliver a Color Co

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June 4, 2014

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Dear Jeremy,

My "ask the expert" question is this... I am a Red with 25% Yellow; I find that at work there is a good blend of Red & Yellow. However, as soon as I get home, my Red goes away and I'm just Yellow. I would like to be more Red at home, but haven't figured out how to do it. Any suggestions?

Donitta

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Dear Donitta,

What a great question! Thanks for bringing it up. I hear this with other Reds, actually, so please

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May 5, 2014

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Dear Jeremy, Our leadership group recently had some Color Code training for a team building event. It was a great experience, we learned a lot, and people have had nothing but positive things to say about the event. One concern that I've had since then, however, is that one of our team members seems to be using his Color Code as an excuse for the way he acts. Is that common, and do you have any advise for addressing that particular issue? Thank you for your help! Cynthia ==================== Dear Cynthia, First of all, I'm glad that you enjoyed the

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April 9, 2014

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This month, I wanted to share a great question that was sent into me by one of our Certified Color Code Trainers. Her name is Lisa Hall, and she does an amazing job. Recently, a participant of hers who had attended a Color Code training in the past asked the following question after learning about the Character Code. Here's the question, "If our Driving Core Motive does not change, then why not just take the Character Code assessment?' This is actually a great question, and I can understand where the participant is coming from - especially since we've all been conditioned to look at behavior-based personality models. In fact, if this were

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March 4, 2014

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Dear Jeremy, Personally, I don’t consider myself a “RED”; however, when I see that my red is 34.7% and my Blue is 34.09% (.61% difference) then what does that make me? I mean if I’m equally a red and blue then should I be aware of the Blue-Red, Blue-Blue, Blue-Yellow, and Blue-White relationships? Thank you for your consideration. George ========== Dear George, Thank you so much for submitting your questions. Without a doubt, you have a VERY strong and extremely close Secondary Color to consider. There are definitely some insights that I have for you both in determining with certainty your Core Color and in understandin

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January 29, 2014

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Dear Jeremy,Does not the environment I endured as a child sway these results? Who I ultimately was as a child is somewhat different from whom I needed to be for survival. My behavior was not that of a carefree child. Regards, Sam ========== Dear Sam, Thanks for asking this excellent question. If you feel like your childhood was negatively impacted in some way (e.g., abuse, trauma, etc.), then yes, you would need to take it from a different perspective. For most people, the instructions help them achieve the best results. For the smaller percentage of the population with a tumultuous childhood, we recommend taking the assessment diffe

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January 5, 2014

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Dear Jeremy,

Hello there and thank you in advance for your time!

While I completely agree with my Color Code of Yellow, I have a hard time aligning these traits with my Christian beliefs. Would there be a section that speaks of religion and Colors having congruence?

Best, Manny ==================== Dear Manny, First of all, hello to you as well, and thank you for submitting such a wonderful question! I can see how that might be a little confusing. To answer your question and help you reconcile the differences between yo

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November 26, 2013

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Dear Jeremy, I can tell that I am not being true to my core personality, which is Yellow—motivated by fun. Most people who know me (other than my family) would say that I come across as an extremely White and submissive personality. I have gotten very used to acting this way, but I always feel incomplete and unsatisfied. I have tried to pull out my personality more, but I never seem to succeed. I feel trapped by people's expectations of how I will act, and I find myself fearing the negative Yellow traits that only come out when I am more comfortable. How can I work through my fears and be true to my core personal

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October 30, 2013

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Dear Jeremy, Woof! I need some help! I'm a Blue (Secondary White), married to a STRONG Red (Secondary Yellow) with an almost pure Yellow (secondary possibly White) child! Which explains why at age 33 I have more white hair than people double my age lol. Anyone else in a similar challenging relationship/family structure and how do you (in particular my fellow blues) manage? Sincerely,  Marquis Dawkins ==================== Dear Marquis, Your question makes me think of something I've heard Dr. Hartman say a hund

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September 24, 2013

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Dear Jeremy, I recently read in the People Code book that both Reds and Whites are very logic-based in general, which can be a positive element in a Red-White relationship. I have to say that this did surprise me a little, though, as I'm a White married to a Red, and he seems to be much more emotional than I do at times. Can you explain why that is? Is he an emotional Red, maybe? Regards, Julie ==================== Dear Julie, Thank you so much for the excellent question because it does seem paradoxical that Reds would display much emotion. I know exactly what

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