Weekly Tools and Tips to Improve Any Relationship
Dear Jeremy,
I am a White that loves to make goals, but I get overwhelmed, “want to do it all” and then have a hard time following through with my goals. I do very well with accountability. My husband is Yellow and also struggles with keeping goals. To add to the complexity, we have 5 small children ages 19 months to 10 years old.
Heidi
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Hello, Heidi.
Wow! You’ve got a lot going on in life. 🙂
Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at Color Code. I’d love to answer your question with a few thoughts of my own.
First of all, I love that you are goal- and accountability-oriented. That’s a tremendous start, and it’s not necessarily natural for someone with a White personality style to be wired that way.
That’s great news!
Next, I’d love to just make a quick comment on your family dynamics, because I’m a Yellow — like your husband — and I also still have young children at home. My first thought here is that you have to give yourself some grace and a little wiggle room with goals. With five small children and one parent with a White personality style and another with a Yellow style, I imagine that structure isn’t necessarily your strong suit at this phase in life. (And I say that in the kindest, most understanding “been there done that” kind of way I know how.)
There is probably a lot of playful, easy-going fun in your home. I’m sure it feels like a wonderful place to be, but structure, organization, and routine are all things that might be “works in progress” at this point.
All of that said, with goals, I can think of a couple of things that might help.
Please know that it is VERY common for people with a White personality style to get overwhelmed, and that you’re not alone.
I think my main suggestion would be to just pick one main thing that you want to work on and “park” the others. Whites love to daydream and get caught up in new ideas. The creativity is amazing, but it can distract you from accomplishing the goals you have already committed to. It can also rob you of productivity. Producing lots of new ideas can also lead to overwhelm.
You can park ideas that you want to get to later by writing them down so you don’t forget them. Come back and read through that list from time to time to keep yourself excited for what you might be ready to take on next once your current goal is achieved.
As a White, I imagine you are probably a patient person. You also mentioned your “bonus” skill of enjoying accountability. I think those two traits can work together really well in helping you accomplish lots of things one goal at a time — even while being pulled in different directions by life (and kids)!
Very best of living,
Jeremy Daniel
Training Director
Color Code
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Jeremy Daniel (Core Color: Yellow) has been working with the Color Code since 1998 in various capacities from training in the field personally with Dr. Taylor Hartman to designing customized corporate solutions and new training programs for various industries. To ask about Jeremy’s training or speaking services, please email and inquiry to jeremy@colorcodetraining.com.
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