Color Code describes the Red/Red relationship as ‘fireworks,’ and for good reason. A Red/Red relationship can be powerful, productive, and satisfying in business or your personal life. But it can also be problematic—full of animosity and angst.

Reds are natural leaders. They are decisive, assertive, and excellent at delegating. They also have the natural limitations of being bossy, argumentative, and demanding—times two. When there are two Reds in a relationship and both need to be the boss, neither wants to be told what to do.

Recipe for disaster?

Yes and no. 

There is a lot of power behind this highly motivated duo. Reds are all about getting from point A to point B and will do everything they can to get there. If they can agree on precisely what point B is, there is no stopping this dynamic team. They are both determined and responsible and can easily accomplish their goals.

Unfortunately, because both are controlling, one might get push back from the other about ‘who’s the boss.’ If unchecked, the natural limitations of a Red can destroy this relationship. The good news is the natural strengths can make it strong. 

To achieve a successful relationship, both Reds must:

1. Learn anger management. A Red’s anger can be like a volcano. It erupts and then subsides, not knowing or caring about the havoc it has wreaked in its wake.  Reds don’t hold a grudge, and they will quickly get over whatever has caused the eruption. If they can learn to keep their anger in check, they will soon be able to speak of the issue logically.  
2. Think before they speak. Often, Reds blurt out what is on their minds. Their sarcastic comments can spark ire in their partner, causing a rift that strains the relationship. They must never embarrass each other in public. They need to think before they speak. Learning a bit of diplomacy and empathy will go a long way.
3. Admit when they are wrong. Reds can be naturally arrogant and believe they are right—always. When there are two Reds who believe this, there can be no détente. When they disagree, they need to face the fact that they can’t both always be right and admit when they are wrong.
4. Avoid the struggle for dominance. Reds are naturally controlling. They want it their way or the highway. When the struggle begins, it’s time for a conversation before resentment escalates. Learn to listen and act objectively. 
5. Show respect. Reds need to be respected more than they need to be liked. In a Red/Red relationship, mutual respect is vital. 

None of these suggestions will come naturally. It’s difficult to overcome limitations and will require a lot of conscious effort. A positive plan of action would be if each Red communicates which limitation affects the relationship most and starts from there. When we see ourselves through the eyes of others, it helps us become more aware of the effect our behaviors have on our relationships.

If both Reds can set aside egos and view this relationship as a challenging adventure—determined to make it work—they will both experience one of the most powerful and successful relationships in the Color Code palette. 

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Teresa Glenn has been working with the Color Code since 2006, where her main focus is product development. She has been in the publishing and product development field for over 20 years. Teresa is a core Red with a strong Yellow secondary.