Weekly Tools and Tips to Improve Any Relationship
If you have more than one child, you have come to the realization that regardless of the fact that they were raised in the same environment, siblings can be very different. Following are some tips on what you can expect now that the new school year is upon us.
Whether in kindergarten or grad school, a Red is only there because they need the experience to further their success. Otherwise, why bother? They already know everything. In fact, Red children are often the ones that leave school too soon because they’re bored.
The biggest problem that teachers (especially Blue teachers) have with Red students is that Red children don’t care who is the adult or who has authority. They are very direct and will challenge anyone. They are highly verbal, so it’s very tough for them just to shut up. When they’re in a debate, they’re going to carry it to the end—even if it means being punished. Typically, they just want to express themselves. Red children are very defiant. They will take you on. A red child will respect appropriate standards, but not roadblocks. Don’t be petty. Throw them a bone once in awhile. If you want to win the war, then let them win some battles.
Blue children, on the other hand are very obedient. They will do what you tell them to do because they should. They come home on time. They do their homework to please their teacher.
They are very loving kids and can get their feelings hurt easily. If you hurt them, they will remember. They seek your approval and physical affection. Take the time to touch them, to talk with them. Share their day with them.
They will also remember, and appreciate that you were a room mother or that you took off work to come to their programs. They’ll let you know, “I want you to be where I am.”
Blue children can be devastated by a scolding. They feel guilty already. Remember, that when you are disciplining them you don’t have to do much, because they punish themselves enough.
White children are probably the most blessed gift a parent will ever receive. Their needs are so few they are easy to accommodate. They are not demanding. They don’t require great fanfare. There is a quiet, unique gentleness about them. This promotes family harmony. They are the children who travel through life with an even temper. New experiences can traumatize White children however, because they are typically shy. They do not easily step outside of their comfort zone.
White children are often overlooked. If you’re the parent of a White student and are paying taxes, you are not getting your money’s worth. They are the nicest, easiest children in the world. They don’t fight. They don’t cause contention. They don’t get in anyone’s way. But they also get overlooked. If a teacher has thirty kids, she is grateful for the few who will sit quietly at the back of the room while she attends to the others.
One of the problems with White children is that sometimes they approach life too casually. This can be seen in their aimless and misguided natures. For example, White children forget lunches, musical instruments, or that they need two-dozen cookies by tomorrow morning.
Yellow is the color for kids. Yellow children are quite entertaining, but watch out for your Yellow student. They prioritize play over work. This is very difficult for people to understand, especially Reds and Blues. But Yellows believe that play is productive.
Yellows also have a lot of excuses. They are terrible at being pinned down. You ask where their homework is, and they will make up story after story. They have lots of excuses for everything.
Yellows are also very forgetful people. To complete a task, they need a specific timeline, directions to follow, and constant reminders. Yellows are rather messy and sloppy in their work habits. They produce material that most teachers cringe over and parents are rather embarrassed about. But, teachers will often tell you how much they love your Yellow student and how bad they feel giving them an F.
Keep in mind that all the colors have different study habits, attitudes about school, and interactions with you and their education provider. Don’t expect each to behave the same. Take the time to learn the needs and wants of each child and create an environment that will help them in their academic success. CC
