On September 11, 2001 the world watched as the twin towers of the World Trade Center collapsed. On the same day, my own little piece of the world was collapsing. My mother was diagnosed with stage-four cancer and she was in the process of dying. Her life ended on September 20, and it felt as though mine would too. I was devastated, and privately mourned her well. I didn’t show anyone else the depth of my grief, but instead remained stoic. My lack of visible emotion was misinterpreted as at best, denial, and at worst, downright indifference. At some point in our lives, we all have to face the death of a loved-one, close friend, or even a

What do these Colors mean anyway? I recently had a person ask me if I could better explain what these four Colors are so that she could better understand how this whole system works and how to apply it to her life. Most people, she said, just hear about "Red," "Blue," "White," and "Yellow" and then a few behavioral qualities that describe what each type is like. She also wanted to know what the Colors themselves mean. I thought this was such a great question! It's at the heart of Dr. Hartman's theory, and I probably too often assume that everybody understands it already. So here's my quick lesson on MOTIVES. Whenever I deliver a Color Co

Dear Jeremy, With Valentine's day coming, I wanted to write and ask the following question: How I can get my Red husband more engaged in the holiday? When we were dating, he made the day so special with gifts and activities. Since we've been married, though, he isn't one bit romantic. Help! Sincerely, Blue in SLC  ____________________________________________ Dear Blue in SLC, I have great news for you! If you are well-versed in the Color Code, it's like having that chubby little cherub we call "Cupid" on speed dial. So let me give you a few insights on how Reds--espec