Whites are wonderful. There is no denying that. They are kind, even-tempered, accepting, inventive and balanced, among other great qualities. Anyone who doesn’t have a healthy White in their life needs to drop what they’re doing and go seek a White friend. You’ll thank us later.

Of course, we could brag about Whites all day, but what good would it do if we only ever talked about the strengths of every color? Although it can be discouraging to hear about our limitations, it’s essential for character growth.

Whites are timid, inexpressive and they avoid conflict. They can also be boring and uninvolved. It might sting a little to hear limitations you may or may not be aware of already, but we are here to provide you with a list of five things Whites should do before they’re 30 in an effort to help you stretch yourself and combat some of these limitations. Ready, set, go!

Five Things Whites Should Do Before They’re Thirty

1. Initiate and carry on a legitimate conversation with a stranger

Whites are timid. They can be afraid of emotional exposure and drama. Whites also carry a sense of self doubt. Even if they look peaceful on the outside, they may be questioning their capabilities on the inside. Whites, we know you like your solitude, but try combating some of your timidity and self-doubt by reaching out to someone you’d like to get to know and continue to converse with them for at least 15 minutes! At best, you’ll make a good friend, and at worst, you can still pat yourself on the back for being brave and stepping outside your comfort zone!

2. React from an emotional perspective. Risk with your heart.

Whites do not easily trust others. They usually hide what they’re really feeling from others who may judge or disapprove of them. Whites don’t express themselves very much, and while some don’t mind others having to assume what their beliefs, fears, hopes and dreams are, others wish they could find the words to express themselves adequately. For the White readers out there, try choosing more people to trust, and share the feelings deep inside your heart with them. It’ll help you connect on a deeper level, which they may appreciate and which may help you feel relieved.

3. Break a Blue’s heart

OK Whites, we know you’re probably too kind to do this, but try to view it as less about actually breaking their heart and more about becoming more comfortable with confrontation (with any color, really). Did you know Whites prefer the silent treatment to confrontation? Whites definitely have opinions, but they also keep them to themselves, which leaves the other colors guessing. Whites are also more likely to be passive-aggressive than the other colors because it allows them to appear cordial without dealing with overt conflict. Whites, try sharing your opinion more, even if you’re afraid it will offend someone else. Of course you can still show tact so you’re not purposely hurting someone, but don’t be afraid to own up to the fact that you don’t like a certain movie or that you don’t agree with someone else’s opinions.

4. Spontaneously do something — anything — at least three times

Whites can be boring. They themselves may not be bored, but they are the type to passively let life happen to them. Rather than being the one to entertain, they wait for others to entertain them.  Whites, you may not like having this limitation, but don’t worry — you don’t have to! Sure, it may not be easy or natural, but start trying to be more exciting by doing something spontaneous. If you want to go big, try booking a surprise trip for you and a friend or you and your spouse. If you’re not ready to go quite that spontaneous, try doing something like going to the movies mid-week instead of waiting for the weekend. And don’t stop there! Do it at least three times!

5. Keep your subtle witty comments flowing at all times and with everyone

Whites, you may be timid and uninvolved in conversations or certain relationships, but try not to be afraid of letting your unique personality come through so everyone can get to know the real you. Maybe you feel like others don’t know the real you because you’re more quiet around them than with your close friends and family. It might be hard, but try voicing your wit more around those you’re not totally comfortable with. They’ll probably appreciate it!

Well, there you go, Whites. You’re set on a road to improvement, and don’t worry, you don’t have to be under 30 to participate in this list. For the Whites who’ve mastered some or all of the items on this list, how did it feel? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

— The Color Code Team