From a tender age, I have been fascinated by The Color Code. I love learning about myself and others and how I can gain a deeper understanding of how we emotionally connect to one another. I am a Blue.

Because of so much exposure to Color Code, I considered myself adept at assigning people in my life to the various colors. So you can imaging my face palm when my husband — I admittedly couldn’t decide if he was a Red or a Blue — turned out to be a bright, shining Yellow.

After listening to the Yellow CD for the first time in several years, it totally makes sense to me that he would be this fun-loving color. How could I not see it before? Now I realize I need to improve my approach of understanding his driving core motive, his strengths, and yes, his limitations.

If you are also in a relationship with a Yellow, here are a few things to remember:

DO promote creative and fun activities for and with them

Yellows are so much fun, and being married to one is very entertaining. My husband and I both value a good time, but I have a lot of White in me and it’s easy for me to rely on him to think of creative date nights. About a year ago, I was feeling slightly annoyed that our recent date nights were seeming a bit routine. My husband is very romantic, and I wanted him to plan something special for us.

Then I realized I was being selfish. He was very good at planning something special for me, but I was lacking. I quickly hopped on Groupon and found a deal to go ice skating outdoors. Then I texted him and told him I had a surprise date planned for us and asked him to pick me up from work and bring some warm clothes. His response was enthusiastic, and he delivered my request. We rode a free Christmas-themed trolley through the city then proceeded to ice skate on a rink surrounded by skyscrapers. It was simple, but memorable, and I could tell it meant a lot to my husband. Just because Yellows are great at bringing the fun doesn’t mean we can’t speak their language by joining the fun.

DO touch them physically

Being “touchy-feely” is not natural for everyone, but Yellows liked to be touched physically. This is a good reminder for couples after the honeymoon phase wears off. If your spouse or significant other is a Yellow, take a mental note to incorporate extra physical expressions into your relationship. Sometimes while my husband is driving, I’ll reach over and rub the back of his neck, and he loves it. Of course, don’t crash!

DO accept their playful teasing

As a Blue, I tend to be overly sensitive. Sometimes my husband will razz me and I won’t realize he’s totally kidding so the conversation takes a sour turn. He then usually says, “You take me so seriously!” I’m a Blue, I do! But it’s important for me, and any other like-minded people, to remember Yellows like to tease and they’re just trying to have fun.

DON’T ignore them

Nobody likes being ignored, but Yellows especially dislike it. Too often, I keep the company of my phone when I should be keeping the company of my husband. I know it’s hurt him in the past when I pay more attention to my virtual life than to him (as it should). Make a concerted effort to be present with your Yellow significant other and pay attention to them.

DON’T expect them to dwell on problems

As a Blue, one of my natural limitations is being worry-prone. Yellows, on the other hand are easily distracted and don’t dwell on problems. Being married to a Yellow is a huge blessing in this regard. I usually want to over discuss my worries, and this can exasperate my husband. He soothes and supports me as a worrier, but I can tell when I’ve taken a step too far.

DON’T forget they have “down” times also

My Yellow husband is optimistic and happy with life most of the time, but he does occasionally surprise me with stress and sadness. When these emotions crop up for him, I try my best to be patient, knowing that he’s great about picking me up when I’m down. But this atypical behavior does throw me off. I do, however, think it’s really important to remember Yellows are still normal human beings and therefore experience all kinds of emotions.

Now that I’ve successfully removed my palm from my face, I hope you and I can apply this Yellow knowledge and strive for better, more fun relationships. After all, who doesn’t love a Yellow?

Megan Christensen graduated from Brigham Young University-Idaho in 2014 with a Bachelor’s degree in Communication. She previously worked as the head writer for KSL.com and is now the digital content manager for The Color Code. Her core color is Blue, but she is almost just as White.