ATTENTION: If you’ve been on so many blind dates that you actually won a free dog, this article is for you…

Let’s face it. You “log in” because you eventually want to “log off” and actually meet someone in person, right? I mean, if Sheldon and Amy Farrah Fowler (Shamie) can do it, you can DEFINITELY do it. And, if you understand The Color Code, you can date more successfully than ever before.

The first thing that you need to learn about dating is this: “It’s all about you…but it ain’t only all about you”. I’ll explain…

What I’m talking about here is the fact that you are interested in dating because you are seeking to increase your own level of happiness – and there’s nothing wrong with that. All things considered, it really is all about you and your life, and you’re the only person responsible for making it happen. On the flipside however, dating and relationships involve other people (obviously), and if you always make things about yourself, you will fail miserably in creating the happiness that you seek.

Balancing Emotional Needs/Wants for Both You and Your Partner

If you have taken the Color Code Personality Test, you have seen that you are provided with some basic information about your relationship emotional needs and wants. This is key information for you to understand what is going to make you happy long-term (Hint: make sure that the person you’re dating can fulfill you in these areas, or find somebody else!).

However, it doesn’t stop there. Statistically speaking, the # 1 reason relationships fail is this: SELFISHNESS – remember “it’s not only all about you”. You should also seek to fulfill the emotional needs and wants of the person you are dating (Hint-Part-2: Do this and they will only want you even more!).

With that in mind, the next time you go out with someone, ask yourself the following questions:

• Does my date work towards or against me fulfilling my relationship needs & wants?
• What am I doing to get to know my date’s relationship needs & wants?
• Can we fulfill each others’ needs & wants long term while still being true to who we are as individuals (compatibility)?

It never has to be that one person is fulfilled at the expense of the other. Those types of relationships cannot bring lifelong happiness for either person involved. The best part of truly fantastic relationships is that while two people can be very different individually, when they commit to the other’s happiness, they find their own—and magic is born of it.

Know “The Code”, and date smart!