Weekly Tools and Tips to Improve Any Relationship

April 12, 2018

Self-Awareness in the Workplace: Effective Empathy

  In February we discussed workplace bullying, but like Charles M. Glow said, “One doesn’t have to operate with great malice to do great harm. The absence of empathy and understanding are sufficient.” With so many issues facing the workforce today, it is important to recognize and understand the diversity of your workforce and empathize with the issues that they are faced with daily. Empathy is the ability to put yourself in the shoes of others, psychologically, to understand their thoughts, feelings, needs and wants. More importantly, it’s using that information to build relationships, teamwork, and effective leadership. St

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June 27, 2017

Electronic Messages—Reading Between the Lines

“Words, once they are printed, have a life of their own.”  -Carol Burnett (Editor's Note: This post was previously published on the blog May 11, 2015, but the author felt it was even more important today.) We live in an age where a large percentage of our communications are done via email and texts. It is convenient, and for some, a great time saver. The problem is, how are your messages interpreted? Without body language to provide insight into the delivery, a misinterpreted written communication might leave the recipient feeling slighted, criticized or belittled. An unanswered emai

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March 14, 2017

Do Personality Tests “Profile?”

As more and more companies are using personality tests as recruitment and management tools, the question arises, “Do these tests profile?” According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of profile includes, “…the extent to which an individual exhibits traits or abilities as determined by tests or ratings.” So, in the very strict sense of the word, the answer is yes. However, the way in which the question is asked often indicates that personality testing is negative and intrusive — a violation of our most personal self, and perhaps that is the issue that should be ad

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August 5, 2015

A RED Planning a YELLOW Bridal Shower

My sweet niece is getting married. She lives in a different state than most of her family, and consequently feels the wedding plans are a bit one-sided. She is desperate to be surrounded by her own family. I readily agreed to throw a bridal shower for this fun-loving, VERY Yellow niece in her hometown. This is how it all started: Talk about clueless. I win the prize for being clueless. And I have no excuse. I work for Color Code. Lets break down this innocent little message: I was hoping to have a little shower at your house.

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March 30, 2015

A Red, a Blue, and 10,000 Steps

I bought a Fitbit®. For those of you who have been say, on the moon, a Fitbit® is a small device that when tucked into your pocket, counts the steps you walk in the course of a day—all 24 hours of it. This latest craze recommends that you walk 10,000 steps in those 24 hours. Easy right? Ha! Being a Red, it is important for me to be challenged and I thought this handy little piece of technology would do exactly that. Ha! again. I have owned said product since February 18th and have yet to walk 10,000 steps in a day. The closest I have come is 8,044 steps and that is the day I had to visit the Apple Store’s Genius Bar and ended

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January 14, 2015

A Butt for Every Seat

How to Hire and Retain Great Employees We’ve all heard the term “a butt for every seat” and it has never been truer than when applied to business. With employment rates climbing and jobs becoming more plentiful, the question is “How can I be sure it’s the right butt, and if it is, how do I keep it in the seat I provide?” Right Butt/Right Seat Finding the right person for the job is half the battle. There’s no doubt that certain jobs are best suited to certain personalities. According to Susan M. Heathfield, Human Resources Expert, you should “Select the right people in the first place through behavior-based testing and compete

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December 2, 2014

Is That ALL!?

4 Building Blocks for Charactered Children The family is gathered for the holidays. You have gone out of your way to search out the perfect gift. You may have spent more than planned, but you believe it will be worth it when you see the light in the child’s eye. Then, everything implodes. The child opens the gift and says, “Is that ALL?” or “I didn’t want this!” or “You got me clothes?!” You are torn between embarrassment and anger. You want to take the gift back from him, but fear you’ll look as immature as the child. Sadly, many of us are raising our children in a “is that all?” society. We

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August 12, 2014

Your Color Code Relationship with Your Kids

I’ve raised them the same, but they are soooo different. I can’t believe they came from the same family! We hear that all the time. The truth is, your children are very different−innately. And as someone with her own unique driving core motive (DCM), you respond differently to each of those little personalities. A Red parent may have difficulty with a Blue child’s intense emotion. A Yellow parent can’t understand why her White child isn’t outgoing. The chart below shows us how some colors are complementary to one another while others are non-complementary. So, as a parent, you may love your children with all your heart,

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May 5, 2014

Mother’s Day? We Have Your Back

May 11th is Mother’s Day. To some it’s a big deal and to others, not so much. Either way, we are full of advice for successfully navigating the day. Blues I am breaking with Color Code tradition by beginning this advice with the Blues. Why? Because, I’m afraid those of you with Blue mothers will fade before you get to the Blue advice, and that would be a big mistake—BIG. So, pay attention. Let’s talk about your Blue mother. All your life, she was there for you. She was the mother who volunteered for your field trips, cake bake, sports… the list goes on. She drove you to school when you slept in, and believed you when you fibbed.

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April 30, 2013

From This Chair—The Color of Healthcare

As I write this, I am sitting in a visitor chair at a local hospital. I have been in this chair, and many like it, off and on for six months. From this chair, I have had the opportunity to see healthcare in all its personalities. From this chair, I have observed nurses in action. They are young and old, male and female, and mostly Blue. If you have a loved one who is sick, having a Blue take care of them is a true gift and these nurses have my complete and total admiration. They have the natural gifts of empathy, compassion, sincerity, and strong sense of purpose.

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