4 Building Blocks for Charactered Children The family is gathered for the holidays. You have gone out of your way to search out the perfect gift. You may have spent more than planned, but you believe it will be worth it when you see the light in the child’s eye. Then, everything implodes. The child opens the gift and says, “Is that ALL?” or “I didn’t want this!” or “You got me clothes?!” You are torn between embarrassment and anger. You want to take the gift back from him, but fear you’ll look as immature as the child. Sadly, many of us are raising our children in a “is that all?” society. We

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Hi Jeremy, My core color is Red (with a strong secondary blend of Blue and Yellow). My husband is a core White, with Yellow secondary traits. My issue: he thinks personality studies are stupid and a waste of time. I feel like he is limiting himself but refusing to understand himself and others... And limiting our relationship, since he doesn't get my need to share and be understood. Obviously I can't change him, but what do I do? I'm frustrated! Sincerely, Heather ==================== Hi, Heather. I'm sorry you are so frustrated. That would be very difficult. If it helps to know, you're definitely not alone. Many people have come to u

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The 4 “F’s” – How the 4 Colors Avoid Facing the Truth and Avoid Conflicts - Rosalie D. Gibbons, MFT and Gloria Manchester, CTACC “The Heart in Forgiveness” is a process designed by the writers to support you in releasing childhood hurts or other disappointments, regrets, or failures so that you can move forward in your life. As Oprah Winfrey has said, “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.” When someone offends, betrays, or deceives us, it is natural to feel frustrated, angry, hurt, and resentful. Our attention and focus zeroes in on the source of our injury, and we rapidly begin buil

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With a demanding new project on the horizon, you have decided to appoint a group leader to head it up. In the past, employees within the group have worked independently, without any defined leadership. However, you feel it would be beneficial to appoint a formal leader for the group. Each color will bring with it its own set of leadership strengths and limitations. Knowing those characteristics will help you select the person best suited for this project. Red A healthy Red will make a wonderful leader. Reds are visionary; they are always thinking a few steps ahead. They will set a structured course for the team and give clear directions. Team

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Taking Ownership For Your Relationships

Taylor Hartman, Ph.D.

When was the last time you accepted full responsibility for a problem in your life?  When was the last time you heard anyone say, “That’s completely my fault.  I am 100% Responsible for what happened and will do whatever is necessary to make it right!” We have created a society of victims with a cultural backdrop that actually promotes ”blame, denial and rationalization” rather than responsibility and ownership.  Today, if you smoke three packs of cigarettes a day for forty years and die of lung

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