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August 18, 2021

Communicating with different personalities in the same household

Hello!

Party of six, party of six, yes, six!

Who are these people? We live together, but who are we? We are a multigenerational, grand family household.

Here is the cast by generation, gender, and personality color:

Boomer Husband — Red

Boomer Wife — Red, White, and Blue

Millennial Daughter — White

Gen Z Grandson — Yellow

Gen Z Granddaughter — Red and Blue

Gen Alpha Grandson — Red and Blue

As the boomer wife and home manager, I often wonder:

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March 26, 2021

What to Know About Dating a White Personality

When you're dating, have both eyes open. When you're married, keep one eye shut.   This is the advice from the mother of one of my clients. My client, a Blue personality, was dating somebody with a White personality. He was patient and kind, and she felt secure and comfortable. She was familiar with the Color Code, as she had participated in the communication training, and eventually became my workshop assistant.  She told me that knowing his strengths and limitations opened her eyes to who she was dating. She was more patient with the limitations of the White personality. For example, he wasn't verbal about his emotions.   With

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March 24, 2021

Using the Color Code to Strengthen a Boss-Employee Relationship

Editor’s Note: Names have been changed in the following story to protect the individual’s identities  In my executive coaching practice, I have found that differences in communication styles can play a larger role in someone's success in an organization more than other skills. That was the case when Barb reached out to me about some difficulties she was having with her boss in her new job.   In addition to training webinars, I use the Color Code as a tool to help solve real-world business problems. Barb was brought into a mid-size industrial organization to lead their HR department.  She was so excited fo

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June 27, 2017

Electronic Messages—Reading Between the Lines

“Words, once they are printed, have a life of their own.”  -Carol Burnett (Editor's Note: This post was previously published on the blog May 11, 2015, but the author felt it was even more important today.) We live in an age where a large percentage of our communications are done via email and texts. It is convenient, and for some, a great time saver. The problem is, how are your messages interpreted? Without body language to provide insight into the delivery, a misinterpreted written communication might leave the recipient feeling slighted, criticized or belittled. An unanswered emai

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May 11, 2015

Electronic Messages—Reading Between the Lines

“Words, once they are printed, have a life of their own. ”  -Carol Burnett We live in an age where a large percentage of our communications are done via email and texts. It is convenient and for some, a great time saver. The problem is, how are your messages interpreted? Without body language to provide insight in the delivery, a misinterpreted written communication might leave the recipient feeling slighted, criticized, or belittled. An unanswered email or text might make a person feel that they are being ignored, or worse, that the recipient is angry over the content of the message. All of this can

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May 11, 2015

Ask the Expert

Dear Jeremy, I profiled as a Red. I don't think that is a bad thing to be, but now my family thinks that the Red is all that I am. They think I'm controlling and unkind. What do I do to convince them that I have many layers? Yours truly, "Red" ==================== Dear "Red", What a great question! Speaking of layers, I see a few in your question and comments that I would like to address here. Certainly being Red is not a bad thing at all! Every Color has wonderful strengths that should be openly shared and celebrated. It is also true that every Color has terrible limitations that should be regularly evaluated and addressed as well. A

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January 19, 2015

Ask the Expert

Dear Jeremy, I have a concern and could use some advice. I'm a strong blue. I work as a nurse and deal with Red personalities at times. As you can guess, these Reds come in the form of doctors. I have one doctor currently who enjoys belittling and intimidating me in front of other medical team members. My first and only contact so far was not pleasant. I have had texting communication (his preferred way to communicate) since then but not face to face. I know I need to demand respect from him or he will continue this behavior. Do you have any other suggestions. I'm not feeling any support from my 2 supervisors. I've looked through the book

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November 3, 2014

Ask the Expert

Hi, Jeremy. I have been a fan of the Color Code for years and use it constantly while working on my own personal development. My family are all well-versed in Color Code as well, and it is part of our ongoing dialogue. My question is, what do you do when somebody sees themselves as being one Color, but everyone around them sees them as being another Color entirely? Do you have some ideas on how to assess what is really going on? Thanks! Andre ========== Hello, Andre. Thanks for the question. Yes, that can be a tricky situation because the last thing th

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August 12, 2014

Your Color Code Relationship with Your Kids

I’ve raised them the same, but they are soooo different. I can’t believe they came from the same family! We hear that all the time. The truth is, your children are very different−innately. And as someone with her own unique driving core motive (DCM), you respond differently to each of those little personalities. A Red parent may have difficulty with a Blue child’s intense emotion. A Yellow parent can’t understand why her White child isn’t outgoing. The chart below shows us how some colors are complementary to one another while others are non-complementary. So, as a parent, you may love your children with all your he

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June 30, 2014

Why We Grieve the Way We Do

On September 11, 2001 the world watched as the twin towers of the World Trade Center collapsed. On the same day, my own little piece of the world was collapsing. My mother was diagnosed with stage-four cancer and she was in the process of dying. Her life ended on September 20, and it felt as though mine would too. I was devastated, and privately mourned her well. I didn’t show anyone else the depth of my grief, but instead remained stoic. My lack of visible emotion was misinterpreted as at best, denial, and at worst, downright indifference. At some point in our lives, we all have to face the death of a loved-one, close friend, or even a

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