Weekly Tools and Tips to Improve Any Relationship
I’ve raised them the same, but they are soooo different. I can’t believe they came from the same family! We hear that all the time. The truth is, your children are very different−innately. And as someone with her own unique driving core motive (DCM), you respond differently to each of those little personalities. A Red parent may have difficulty with a Blue child’s intense emotion. A Yellow parent can’t understand why her White child isn’t outgoing. The chart below shows us how some colors are complementary to one another while others are non-complementary. So, as a parent, you may love your children with all your he
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Did all you Whites out there know that every March there is a holiday called White Day? It’s true. According to Wikipedia, White Day is celebrated in Japan, South Korea, Taiwan and China on March 14--one month after Valentine's Day. White Day was first celebrated in 1978 in Japan when the National Confectionery Industry Association started it as an “answer day” to Valentine's Day (their version of our Hallmark Holidays). It was “designed” to give men the opportunity to pay back the women who gave them gifts on Valentine's Day. Naturally, the National Confectionery Industry Association wanted all the gifts to be chocolate, but it h
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Today my son Chris and I had an interesting conversation about love. He is a White and therefore very introspective when it comes to observing human nature. I, on the other hand, am a Red so tend to discount emotions that seem to inflict the lovelorn. Still, even though I am missing the romance chip, I found the conversation interesting. It seems that Chris’s Yellow friend is addicted to falling in love. OK, addicted might be too strong a word, but he is strongly attracted to the high that one gets when the whole falling in love process begins. So, we will throw out the word addiction, but make no mistake…there are powerful chemicals inv
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“The only thing more expensive than education is ignorance.” Benjamin Franklin There are few things in life that are more rewarding or challenging than educating our youth. Every year teachers are presented with a sea of new faces for which they must create connection and meaning. The students behind the faces represent tremendous variety in their personal histories and family cultures. Even so, teachers must make sense of the students’ individuality as well as create a community wherein they can work together and learn. We have high expectations for what teachers must accomplish in order to be considered legitimate in society’s eyes
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SITUATION: The CEO of a software company met with her vice presidents to plan the agenda for the annual all-employee meeting. The purpose of the meeting each year is to update and energize the 120 employees of the organization. The CEO’s address is the capstone of the meeting. One vice president conducted the meeting and it all progressed according to plan until the website update came up. The woman giving the update had worked with the company less than six months. However, she was very experienced, well spoken and clear in her presentation. The sales team started asking questions one after another with increasing criticism about the new d
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Dear Jeremy, With Valentine's day coming, I wanted to write and ask the following question: How I can get my Red husband more engaged in the holiday? When we were dating, he made the day so special with gifts and activities. Since we've been married, though, he isn't one bit romantic. Help! Sincerely, Blue in SLC ____________________________________________ Dear Blue in SLC, I have great news for you! If you are well-versed in the Color Code, it's like having that chubby little cherub we call "Cupid" on speed dial. So let me give you a few insights on how Reds--espec
Read MoreTaking Ownership For Your Relationships
Taylor Hartman, Ph.D.
When was the last time you accepted full responsibility for a problem in your life? When was the last time you heard anyone say, “That’s completely my fault. I am 100% Responsible for what happened and will do whatever is necessary to make it right!” We have created a society of victims with a cultural backdrop that actually promotes ”blame, denial and rationalization” rather than responsibility and ownership. Today, if you smoke three packs of cigarettes a day for forty years and die of lung Read More
