This month, I'm choosing to not respond to any one question in particular, but rather to address a reoccurring theme that comes up in a lot of questions I receive. The question is usually something like this:"I am a Red and my partner is a Blue, and sometimes I really don't know what to do help him/her. My partner loves to talk with me about his/her problems, but the minute I try to help identify a solution, he/she is frustrated with me. Maybe this is the logical side of me, but why would you ask somebody for help if you really don't want it in the first place???" It is actually perfectly illustrated in the following video you may

In honor of Independence Day, we decided to focus on one of the most famous, and colorful signers of the Declaration of Independence—Benjamin Franklin. Franklin was born in 1706 and signed the Declaration of Independence when he was 70 years old. So, what of his life before that great event? Because of his prodigious writing, much is known about this great man. We know that in addition to being a forefather of a great nation, he was also a printer, a scientist, an inventor, a writer, a diplomat, and much more. We also know that he was a satirist, had many, many friends, and was a social butterfly.

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Reds are so easy if you understand how they see life. They are “Power” based people. Reds are productive, they are driven, and they hide their insecurities. They are very easy to build relationships with once you understand them. Here are some helpful suggestions. 1. Present issues logically. Do not whine and cry and complain. They want to know the facts. They are not only unmoved by emotion, they see it as weakness. 2. Demand their attention and respect. Reds know they can run you down if you let them, and they don’t respect you if you do. You must learn how to speak up, present the facts, and chal

Hi, Jeremy. I'm just wondering... I have an employee who took the assessment and came out nearly 25% in each of the Colors. Is that even possible, and what does it mean? Thanks! Danny Dear Danny, Thanks for the question. It's a good one, and I'm happy to provide you with some insight here. The good news is that you have probably not hired somebody with multiple personality disorder. :)In fact, an almost even split on a Color Code Personality Assessment is actually not terribly uncommon. The truth is, there is only one Color capable of scoring alm

I have a friend who has a great job, owns her own condo, drives her dream vehicle, and has more friends than anyone I’ve ever known. She is intelligent, has a great sense of humor, and would give you the shirt off her back. Jane is a Yellow. The thought of Jane’s social calendar sends chills down my spine. Unlike her, I am content to stay home, do projects around the house, and enjoy my family (until I don’t). I like it when people come to me, stay a while, then leave. There are times I wish they would actually leave sooner than they do, but still—they do eventually leave. My relationship with Jane consists of her doing anything I s

How would you handle it if your best friend was going through a difficult time in his life and he came to you for help?  How can you provide the best words of encouragement to help him?  Many people will find it hard to believe that the first and best way to help a friend is to practice what I call active listening. You may accomplish this by listening carefully without interrupting your friend, and at the proper pause points, check for understanding by feeding back the pertinent information in the form of a question.  This approach will confirm your understanding of his situation. The other added value perspective you may use to offer w

As I write this, I am sitting in a visitor chair at a local hospital. I have been in this chair, and many like it, off and on for six months. From this chair, I have had the opportunity to see healthcare in all its personalities. From this chair, I have observed nurses in action. They are young and old, male and female, and mostly Blue. If you have a loved one who is sick, having a Blue take care of them is a true gift and these nurses have my complete and total admiration. They have the natural gifts of empathy, compassion, sincerity, and strong sense of purpose. When a nurse asks a patient how he feels, she actually wants to know. Not on

Dear Jeremy, One of our supervisors here is a bit challenged working with mostly Blues, she is a Red.  In hindsight, she felt she over did it with the Blues, in being overly nice, praising, and doing all of the wonderful things she was doing to appeal to the Blues.  She said is was awful, as she knows they were thinking “who is this?!”  She had fallen more into her secondary Blue color and felt she was trying too hard and it backfired. She said she didn’t feel like she could hand out any more lollipops!  Now she has found a healthy balance in that she is now utilizing h