May 11th is Mother’s Day. To some it’s a big deal and to others, not so much. Either way, we are full of advice for successfully navigating the day. Blues I am breaking with Color Code tradition by beginning this advice with the Blues. Why? Because, I’m afraid those of you with Blue mothers will fade before you get to the Blue advice, and that would be a big mistake—BIG. So, pay attention. Let’s talk about your Blue mother. All your life, she was there for you. She was the mother who volunteered for your field trips, cake bake, sports… the list goes on. She drove you to school when you slept in, and believed you when you fibbed.

Today my newest grandchild was born. As I hold her, I can’t help but wonder who she will be. Will she grow up to be a leader? An entertainer? A caregiver? Or will she quietly go about her business? Color Code teaches us that we are born with our personalities. They are innate. Looking at this small, perfect form, it seems that a personality is too unbelievably huge to be contained in her little body. After all, our personalities are huge—they help determine the direction of our lives. That’s not to say our destiny is controlled by our color. How we use the strengths and limitations of our driving core motive is up to us. Take

I am a Red. When I took the Color Code assessment 8 years ago, I didn’t really understand the paradigm, and quite frankly, didn’t take much stock in it. But, working for Color Code, part of my job description was to get on board (go figure), so I took the test. You are a Red. When I got those results, I wasn’t pleased. I didn’t feel motivated by power. I conjured images of myself in a Hiltleresque mustache, demanding and rigid, expecting everyone to fear me. Then I read that a Red’s motivation for power is like that of a car engine. Power that moves you forward, not power that makes you have a diabolical ne

Frank Sinatra crooned, “Love and marriage. They go together like a horse and carriage." Statistically, that means that 50 percent of horses are sans carriage. What is it that the other 50 percent have that keeps them hitched? Experts agree that there are many tips to help your marriage. While no expert, I have been married to the same man for over forty years. Along the way, I’ve picked up a few sage truths: Treat Your Spouse with RESPECT A friend said, “I wish my husband would treat me as well as yours treats you. He worships the ground you walk on.” This after slamming the phone down, and yelling at her husband to come and

Ah…The joys, trials & tribulations of parenting a yellow. As a very strong blue, my 19-year-old very yellow daughter has been a source of frustration and joy in my life. So anyone who is a parent reading this may ask themselves…”So what’s new about that. Every child, regardless of their color and core motive, brings frustration and joy.” I agree but as a certified Color Code trainer, I know that Yellows are a special challenge for me. They don’t navigate the world the way a Blue thinks they should. Remember, Blues are moralistic and take things seriously. Yellows are sooooo not in to that --- way too heavy! As a parent,

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. -Albert Einstein When you opened your email every morning this week, how many contained stories and ads touting how with this person’s book, or this company’s equipment, you are guaranteed success for all your New Year’s Resolutions? This article will tell you the opposite—not because we want you to fail, but because we feel you might be going about it all wrong. Are Resolutions Made to Fail? I’m going to quit smoking, and lose weight, and get in shape, and get back in touch with so and so, and… According to

My fiancé and I are both Red. Her Blue 13 year old son Gabe came home from school yesterday. “I feel depressed.”, he said. “Ha!”, I quipped, “What do you have to feel depressed over? You don’t even have a life yet!” “Seriously?!”, Mom chimed in, “Go do your homework and chores!  You don’t have time to stand around being depressed!” Typical Red responses, right? It’s hard for us to even imagine what being depressed would feel like. It just sounds like annoying whining to us. Later that night, Gabe came in to inform us that he would like to call a family meeting. He has some very serious issues to discuss about

“Don’t mind me. I’m a Blue…” I was in a crowded restaurant when I overheard the comment from another table. My first thought was, “Good. People are using the Color Code.” My second thought was, “But the context in which she was using it was as an excuse for her bad behavior.” It reminded me about the time I was trying to explain to my angry ‘tween granddaughter that she (Red) and her mother (Blue) are both strong and controlling. The relationship will have natural obstacles and she should try to understand her mother’s need to plan, organize and carry out all aspects of her daughter’s life. This is her way of showing

When I first received my Color Code comprehensive assessment it confirmed what I always expected, I'm a bit crazy and complicated. The first sentence actually said, "Welcome to one of the most complex personalities known to man." I knew it and I'm pretty sure my friends and family did too, but now I had proof! As a Blue/Red I am a super control freak. I’m all heavyweight with barely an ounce of White or peace in my life. Go figure. I was very excited after reading my assessment and taking the Color Code training classes. So excited in fact, I shared the tests with everyone including my boyfriend. I always knew my boyfriend and I were oppo

For the past few months, I have given quite a bit of thought to relationships, breakups and reconciliations. Not my own, but other peoples’. Before I go further, let me say this: My husband and I met in high school and haven’t been apart since. We’ve had the usual squabbles one has in a marriage—especially a Red/Blue marriage—but none of these have resulted in separation. Because I have never dated, broken-up, been jilted, cheated on, or experienced any of the other missteps that ruin relationships, I freely admit that I am in no position to give advice on how a person should feel when they are faced with the pain. What I a