I’m incredibly grateful for the White personality. Whites have many great strengths, but I think my favorite is how kind they are. A great example of White kindness is my husband’s stepmom. She and I have developed a great friendship over the last few years, and I have benefitted significantly from her kindness.

Last fall, I suffered a miscarriage. It was my first pregnancy and was incredibly devastating and traumatic. The grief that followed that experience has been paralyzing at times, and as a Blue, my emotions are sometimes more than I can handle. Despite the hardship of this challenge, I will never forget the service offered to me by many loved ones, including my White stepmother-in-law.

Not only did she offer words of love and kindness after the initial shock, she made dinner for me and spent time with me the night before I decided to go back to work. She was content to talk with me or to let silence sit between us. She offered a listening ear for months after that. She’s sent me multiple thoughtful emails and has helped me feel validated. What meant the most to me, though, was when she sent me a card just days before my baby’s due date. It’s easy to offer someone love and kindness right after a tragedy, but less common to remember days that might be hard for that person later on. I was incredibly touched that she thought about my baby’s due date, especially because it happens to be her birthday. Instead of focusing solely on her own special day, she reached out at a time I needed it most to let me know she was thinking of me.

We all need kind Whites in our lives, and I think we need to stop and appreciate their efforts of kindness more often. Have any Whites in your life showed incredible kindness at a time you needed it most? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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