The Driving Core Motive of a Blue personality is intimacy. They want to connect with you! In return, they NEED to be understood. This may prove difficult for others to do because Blues are highly complex people. They are simultaneously sensitive, intense, caring, critical, giving and unforgiving.

Regardless of their complexity, it is worthwhile to pursue a connection with a Blue. Life cannot bestow on anyone a more gratifying reward than the sincere appreciation and trust of a Blue friend, coworker or family member.

To help you develop a positive connection with Blues, we’d like to provide you with some “Dos” and “Don’ts.”By reading the following list, hopefully you will be able to not only develop a positive connection with them, but understand them better as well.

DO

Emphasize their security in the relationship

• As friends, Blues are very insecure about others’ acceptance and approval. They also feel rejected easily. On the positive side, Blue friends will be loyal forever once a friendship is established. In return, they expect their friends to maintain strong loyalty. To develop a positive connection with a Blue, try emphasizing their security in your relationship by letting them know how much their friendship means to you and make sure to instigate opportunities to get together with them. Sending them an appreciative text message once in awhile or having monthly lunches with them may go a long way.

Be sincere and genuine

• Blues’ trademarks are their loyalty to people and their sincerity in relationships at home and at work. Blues genuinely care how their friends are doing. In developing a positive connection with a Blue, give them a taste of their own medicine and be sincere and genuine right back. If they’re going through a hard time, show them you sincerely care by checking up on them regularly. When sharing your life with them, be real.

Appreciate them

• Blues need to be appreciated for always going the extra mile. Rather than simply patting them on the back, thank them and specifically remember them for their good deeds and on special occasions. If your Blue spouse cleans the house, take notice and let them know how great it looks and how much you appreciate that they took the time to do it. If your Blue friend has a birthday coming up, remember to call them.

DON’T

Make them feel guilty

• Blues already have a lot of guilt. They are huge worriers. Blues can be guilted into almost anything, and they will chastise themselves forever for wrongs they think they may have done. If a Blue does something you don’t like, don’t make them feel guilty about it; chances are, they are already doing that themselves!

Be rude or abrupt

• Blues are very emotional people. On the one hand, they’re very giving and sensitive, but on the other hand, they can be unforgiving and overly sensitive. Though Blues give more than the other personalities, they forgive less. It’s not that Blues can’t or don’t forgive, it is more that they struggle to do so. They take things personally, and when an offense occurs, it roots itself at their deepest core, making forgiveness a much more difficult challenge than for other colors. If you snap at your Blue friend on a bad day, you may really hurt their feelings and they may not readily forgive you for it.

Expect spontaneity

• Your Blue friends will rarely be playful and spontaneous. If you’re a fun-loving Yellow or an adventurous Red, this may be hard for you. Again, Blues are worriers. They worry about everything, and that excess worry limits the amount of excitement they can handle in one day. Rather than expecting spontaneity from a Blue, try making plans with them instead.

Now that we’ve given you a few guidelines, hopefully you can develop a positive connection with a Blue — it will be worth it! Remember, everybody is different and the above may not apply to every Blue if they have a secondary color influencing them. Those who do relate to this however will greatly appreciate you taking the time to understand how to have a better relationship with them.

— The Color Code Team