How Color Code Changed My Life

Becky:

In this journey we call life, we believe what we have been taught and conditioned to believe. We give little conscious thought to our behaviors and actions; we respond subconsciously and often speak before we think. It usually takes some major event happening in our lives (such as the death of a loved one, divorce, job loss, or life-threatening illness) to stop us in our tracks and make us reflect on who we are and exactly what it is that makes us tick.

Prior to me knowing the Color Code, I spent 20 years in a sales and marketing role in the corporate world. I considered myself fairly intuitive about people, though I never really gave it much thought. I connected with those people I wanted to. I understood the value of showing empathy and compassion because it got me where I wanted to be. I knew I was decisive and that my passion was often interpreted as arrogance or aggression. I scared some people, but I didn’t quite know why. Then I experienced my fair share of life-changing events, and that got me seeking answers.

I lost my mum to lung cancer, my job became redundant, I started my own business, and then within 6 weeks my husband announced he didn’t think our relationship was working and he wanted to leave. As a core Red with secondary Blue, you can imagine what an insult that was to my need for respect and intimacy. I dealt with the loss of my mum in a very pragmatic way (Red), which left me feeling guilty (Blue). I was totally frustrated, annoyed, and hurt regarding my husband. I felt that I had spent 10 years of my life trying to support him and then when I needed him most, he was running away (at least that’s how I saw it at the time).

And then I found the Color Code. It made total sense to me and in the space of only a few days, I had decided I was going to attend the Color Code Trainer Certification Course. My business partner, Gwen, was unsure of my decision, but as a nursing professional, she recognized there was a need within me to go. And so I did. When I got back, naturally I imparted my newfound awareness to her. My enthusiasm was contagious and Gwen soon found her own life changed by the Color Code.

Gwen:

The Color Code not only changed my life and the life of my better half, but it is still impacting my family daily. Having been a nurse for over 30 years, I understood emotional intelligence, intuition, and compassion. But I had no idea why I was so successful in changing people’s lives, or why my husband, Stuart, and I would get entangled in arguments that created a rift in our usually great and close relationship.

I spent a day with Becky talking about her passion for people and the Color Code course she had attended. While I thought I might feel “boxed in” after taking the profile, instead I felt free to be me. After studying my profile results, I was different. And Stu could see it. He wanted to know what had happened—yep, you guessed it, he took the profile too. Finding out I am a core Yellow with a secondary Blue and he is a core Blue with a secondary White really altered how we behave.

The Color Code explained my erratic, impulsive, joyful sense of fun. It also helped me discover that I often let the Blue in me overshadow my best Yellow characteristics. I finally understood Stu’s silent stubbornness and how to chase him out into the open. I can use my compassion to help him know his opinion is important to me and that confrontation can be good, as long as it is healthy. Stu appreciates that we can embrace my unpredictable, impulsive side and that I’ve learned to contain it when he needs space to simply be.

Of course we couldn’t stop there. Stuart’s brother James took the profile, then my four siblings, and the rest of his family too. We are successfully negotiating each other through our improved communication. My relationship with our family was already pretty good, but it has improved even more by talking through what is happening and why we all respond the way we do in certain situations. I am more sensitive to the strengths and limitations of each of them. Things Stu says that I might have taken personally before, I now recognize as his logical White secondary color coming through.  And he is way more patient with my ebullience, when at one time he might have thought I was deliberately winding him up.

I can strongly recommend this profile to others for an instant better understanding of their loved ones, with the added bonus of developing relationships at work. It is a user-friendly, practical, and extremely accurate way to understand yourself, and those around you. Go for it!

Becky Lacey is based in the UK, a serial Entrepreneur who is passionate about people and dedicated to challenging the status quo, through thinking differently. Solutions 42 Ltd is her UK Healthcare business focused on education and practical application. She is just launching Dynamic People in support of The Color Code for the UK.